My Why Men Pull Away Review – What I Think After Purchasing the Program

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Note: This article is my opinion after purchasing and going through the program. To write it I have read and listened to the program, as well as used my knowledge of other programs.

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WHY DO MEN STAY with women?

The general belief around men and relationships is that they don’t want commitment. All they really want is sex, and regular sex is how women can keep men in a relationship.

But is this really true?

Well the good news is that this question (and many others) is covered in detail in the ‘Why Men Pull Away’ program by Slade Shaw.

What is the Why Men Pull Away Program… in One Sentence?

The Why Men Pull Away program is a comprehensive guide to what is happening inside a man’s brain when it comes to commitment as well as the tools you need to communicate with him on a deeper level, to get the best out of him, make him happy, as well as move your relationship forward.

What’s the Why Men Pull Away (WMPA) program about… in a bit more detail?

Why Men Pull Away is mostly about commitment, and understanding what a man needs to commit. Along with what he doesn’t want, and some of the trials and tribulations that happen along the way in a typical relationship scenario.

It’s important to remember that men have been this way (pulling away from women in relationships) for tens of thousands of years. This is important for two reasons. One it’s natural. Two, trying to change men in one short lifetime isn’t going to work. So you need to work with it.

That element (the tens of thousands of years of male evolution) is what the book is based on. ‘The paleolithic principle’.

The dream girl factor is about putting yourself in his shoes and asking, ‘what does he want from me?’. This isn’t groundbreaking, but with the help of the author, you can start empathizing and understanding where he is coming from and why. And how, in your particular situation, to meet his needs.

The program covers in some detail, the stages of commitment and a relationship, as well as how to keep the relationship moving forward. There is also a section on the stages of him pulling away and coming back.

There is also an entire section on why he might pull away for the wrong reasons, and what you can do about it.

What can you expect, after going through the program

After going through this program, you can reasonably expect to be able to diagnose where your current (or past) relationships went wrong and how you can go about creating better relationships in the future.

You can also expect to be able to make better decisions regarding him in-the-moment, and understand the language he needs to hear from you.

If you have ever felt like your relationship was ‘stuck’, like many women do, then WMPA will tell you what’s happening in his brain that is stopping progress. You will also learn what you need to do to keep the relationship moving forward.

Who is this program for?

It’s for women who want or have a relationship with a man, and you are not sure how to handle when he starts to pull away.

There are bits and pieces for every stage of your relationship journey, single, dating to married with kids. But it’s mostly for dating and relationships.

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Although the program is pictured on the website as books and CD's, it is only available as a digital download. To get a physical version, you would have to print and bind the text sections yourself.

What’s in the program?

  • Why men pull away – ebook and audio recording
  • Communication Secrets for a Long, Strong Relationship – audio recording and transcription .pdf
  • How to Reignite & Maintain Long-Term Attraction – audio recording and transcription .pdf
  • Interview with Scot McKay – Audio interview
  • Interview with James Bauer – Audio interview

My ‘Why Men Pull Away' Review | Part-by-Part

Introduction – Why You’re Here

This section is mostly build up of what you will learn in the rest of the program. It also talks about how you should read and listen to the program. No real content.

The Paleolithic Principle And The Dream Girl Factor

Without giving away the detail this section covers what the title says. It isn’t all information in though, there is also ‘the question system’ that is directed towards getting him to open up to you while avoiding putting him in a mood. The section rounds out with an explanation of what is covered.

What you’ll learn:

  • What the most attractive quality men find in women is (it’s not what you think)
  • What men really want from a relationship… It’s not what you think
  • The question formula you should use to get him to get him to open up to you when he is pulling away
  • How to make sure your timing with men is right, every time.

Part One – Making Your Man User-Friendly: Understanding The Male Mind Before You Do Anything Else

This section is the largest section of the program and is mostly about commitment. What it is for you and how he sees commitment. Including what makes a man propose to a woman… the fundamental reason.

Part one lays some of the groundwork down for what you need to do. It starts with a wide and broad section on what not to do with men.

Then it moves onto understanding how to know what you actually want and finding out the simple things that he wants out of his relationships.

This includes stuff like, how to let him know you're interested. How to get him to open up to you and tell you things that he hasn’t told anyone. And how to get him to want him to commit to you.

Why YOU being happy is the most important thing in your marriage/relationship or finding a relationship

What you’ll learn:

  • What does commitment mean to him and when it happens in his mind?
  • What to do If Your Man is pulling away right now and you need help?
  • Find Out What He Really Thinks: How To Talk To Him About Commitment, Closeness, And Your Future Together
  • How to know if Your Hopes For The Relationship Unreasonable or You’re On The Right Track
  • Navigating the 5 stages of commitment: how to get from “hello” to “we’re soulmates” in 5 easy steps
  • How to motivate a man to be an active participant in a relationship, rather than couch sitting, tv watching zombie
  • The questions to ask that will prompt him to share and open up emotionally in your relationship (this is a must-read if you want a long-term relationship!)
  • 3 questions you can ask to get him to prove himself to you and why they work so well…
  • The 3 essential and universal needs of men and what happens when you don’t meet them

Part Two – How To Get Him To Focus On You By Giving Him What He Doesn’t Even Realize He Needs

Part two is about what makes a man fall in love. Most of it covers what most women miss and actually do to sabotage themselves.

This is good news because it means that if you have experienced or are experiencing the man in your life pull away, there is something you can do about it. It is not a lottery.

The first section talks about letting him know that it’s ok for him to fall in love with you. As a man, I can tell you that women can make it hard. As it says in the program, women have a much bigger center in their brains for communication than men do. So men can feel like ‘it’s not ok to talk to her about these things’ she will get angry, upset or try to talk me out of doing it.’ It sounds small but it is massive.

Does the man in your life feel like it’s ok to love you? Or does he feel as though it is mandatory? Or maybe he feels it isn’t ok to say or do it. If it’s the second or the third, then you probably feel like your relationship is you pulling him along with you. It shouldn’t feel like that and this is the reason why. The program goes into more details here. I think you’d want to read/listen to this section a few times if this resonates with you.

This section also talks about when a man pulls away… (which is normal). Instead of fighting it, getting emotional and doing things that you don’t usually do, or simply keep prompting him for an answer, the program shows you how to deal with it and come out the other side stronger.

You’ll learn:

  • What makes a man fall in love?
  • What to do if he knows you love him and he is still pulling away?
  • 5 ways to talk to him about your relationship to keep things moving forward
  • One strategy for when he pulls away that will have him springing back to you more committed than before
  • When to have the different ‘commitment conversations’

Part Three – Things That Drive Men Away

Part three will be the meat of the entire program for most women. It covers what drives him away from your relationship, you and commitment in general.

It might also be a little confrontational. Slade pretty straight up with the advice here.

The good news is that the reasons behind everything are explained. I guess it’s no great surprise that nagging is mentioned here as a thing that drives men away. Men detest it. Well the reason why it doesn’t work for him is in this section. Why men’s brains don’t actually understand nagging and being nagged at, how they actually tune it out (and you thought his hearing needed to be checked) and how to make a slight change to your language to get what you want and ‘train him to listen’

Not all the information in this part here is groundbreaking, but it is solid.

Slade also talks about being a dreamgirl. I think this is a good idea, simply because it puts you in the right state of mind to deal with him. Thinking ‘what does he want?’ first. If you do this, and he puts you first, you can’t go wrong.

There’s also a section on ‘why men cheat’. It’s relatively simple compared to some other authors on a similar topic before. But it’s not all bad. Keeping it simple makes it easy to follow, and understand. Although some of the points you will most likely already know.

You’ll learn:

  • The reasons men are secretly afraid of committing to you (and start pulling away)
  • The one thing that pushes men away, more than anything else
  • Why he becomes so grumpy all of a sudden, and how to get him out of his cave when he does
  • How to get your point across that doesn’t push him away
  • Why men cheat and how to ‘other-woman-proof’ your relationship
  • How to deal with work addicts
  • What men are secretly afraid of (that makes them pull away from their relationship)

Part Four – How To Bring Him Closer

Part four is about keeping the relationship strong into the future. It’s more general in nature with some guidelines to follow. As per the other parts, there are examples, and everything is well explained. There aren’t any magic bullets here (which there aren’t anyway), so it’s a simple, guide to follow to keep your relationship strong into the future.

There isn’t a big bang type conclusion either. Just a few words summarising the program.

You’ll learn:

  • What Makes A Man Start Thinking About Forever?
  • How to get him to start thinking about the future
  • What to do when he acts distant and you’ve tried everything you can think of…

Bonuses

BONUS – How to Reignite & Maintain Long-Term Attraction Bonus Interview – With Amy Waterman and Marie Forleo

This 42-minute audio interview and 20-page transcription (in .pdf) on the topic of reigniting and maintaining long-term attraction.

The information comes thick and fast and some of the topics covered are, why having fun is so important in a relationship and how to do it, how to keep the physical attraction alive, and tips to maintaining long-term attraction.

As you can tell by the title, this interview is primarily for women in a long-term relationship.

BONUS – Communication Secrets for a Long, Strong Relationship – With Amy Waterman and Renee Piane

This is a one-hour audio interview (with accompanying 26 page .pdf transcription) around the topic of communication in a relationship. Renee is best known as the author of ‘love mechanics’ which is a system designed for men to help get them relationship ready.

The interview covers topics like, dealing with emotions, criticism in your relationship, how to accept the person that you are with and what to do when the relationship breaks down. This interview is aimed more for people in a committed relationship. It is also a little dated as the transcription is dated 2008.

BONUS – Interview with James Bauer

This 36-minute interview (.mp3 format) with dating and relationships coach James Bauer gets into some of the finer points of male relationship psychology. In particular, why men pull away, what makes men cheat, why men lose interest, why men lie, and what makes them fall out of love.

James is an expert in this area and this interview contains some great information about what’s happening in his brain during the relationship.

BONUS – Interview with Scot McKay

This 46-minute interview (.mp3 format) with Scot McKay, an expert in the dating and relationships space. Scot deals directly with his clients so his advice is real and to the point.

Scot answers questions put to him by surveyed women, in detail, and with a comprehensive understanding. At the very least, this audio will give you a different perspective on some situations you may be experiencing now, or experienced in the past.

PROS & CONS

PROS

Actionable advice

The program gives plenty of direction, including exactly what you should do at times in the way of text messages, and what to say and do.

Explanations

I think the greatest strength of this program is that it doesn’t simply tell you why you should be doing something, it gives you the reasons why so you can understand why yourself.

And then you can start making the right decisions, and truly understand what he wants.

Many questions answered

Probably the greatest part of the program, I felt, was that it answered so many questions. How do you do this, why does that happen, what should you do when he does this etc.

There is something here for every situation you may find yourself in when your man pulls away (and also general relationship stuff)

CONS

Not really any exercises

The reason why I write this as a con is that they can help you get some momentum. There’s one by my count.

Main points could be a little clearer

As I was going through the program, I felt like the information was coming thick and fast and not necessarily sticking. The main points weren’t as clear as they could have been. I needed to listen to the program and refer to the .pdf a few times for me to understand what is what.

Bonuses

Some of the bonuses I felt weren’t as strong as they could be. Some of the advice was very general, broad and cliche. There wasn’t much new information in my opinion as there perhaps could have been. The interview with James Bauer was good (although it felt a little like an advertorial), but the others I felt like a lot of it was simply an opinion on someone else's situation and could have been more helpful.

In Summary (My Opinion)

There is some solid information in this program. It’s put together in a language that is easy to understand and it’s mostly simple to follow.

There is plenty of theory, explanation and enough examples to help anyone with their relationship. You don’t need to have any background knowledge (in relationships, psychology, etc.) to get the maximum benefit out of this program.

Some of the parts covered are common sense, and some of them you may have learned at high school. Although you may have heard them before, they may help reassure you if you’ve heard different opinions on the same topic.

I don’t think there is any doubt that this program can really help, simply by going through it a couple of times. The reason why is there is a lot of things women do that sabotage their own efforts. This program highlights them, and lets you see what you can change.

Usually, it’s just the wording of how you talk to him or the actions that you take in a particular situation. No life changing, no need to rethink everything, just a few small things.

You can get your copy of Why Men Pull Away here.

If you have a question you'd like to ask me about the WMPA program, you can ask me here.

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How to Date a Successful Man and Keep Him Chasing You

How to date a successful guy - tips and techniques to help you when dating a high performer

How to date a successful man - tips and techniques to help you when dating a high performer

SUCCESSFUL MEN ARE INTELLIGENT AND SELF-DRIVEN

They are also highly skilled at what they do, which is why they excel. They are not intimidated by challenges; indeed, he thrives in the face of challenges. They are also not afraid of hard work and putting in the long hours. They are focused, confident and charismatic.

So what woman wouldn’t want to be with this kind of a man…?

The stakes are high

However, high-quality men come with high stakes. There will be some unique challenges and compromises when you are dating a successful man.

Time: Success comes with a hectic life. A successful man barely has time for you. You may have to put up with his long hours at work, unanswered phone calls, and unreplied text messages. You may also have to put up with canceled dinners and business calls during your time together.

His ego: You are dating a man who has achieved certain accomplishments; probably many of them. This man is fearless, and he may be a tad ‘over-confident’, even intimidating.

Friends and social interactions differences: This man you have chosen has friends and colleagues who are probably highly educated or extremely wealthy. His taste, style, and social life are incredibly refined. You must, therefore, educate yourself on how to look and act around his friends and colleagues, because you cannot afford to embarrass yourself and him in front of his associates.

Pleasing him might be a tall order: It might be really challenging to treat him because he has everything he wants. So giving him gifts and surprises might be a problem. You must learn to be creative and come up with gifts that are thoughtful.

The power struggle: When your partner brings in more money than you can ever hope to have, it creates an unequal relationship. You will have to learn to live with the higher degree of financial power that he yields.

The suspicion: You may not be able to avoid the label of ‘gold digger’ by society. In particular his friends, family and work colleagues.

Security: You will have to deal with women who will always be competing for his attention.

On the other hand, dating a successful guy is quite advantageous. You will not have to struggle with financial burdens that many couples are grappling with. Indeed, you will live a life of luxuries and glamour. A successful guy is also likely to encourage you to achieve your own dreams. His connections will also be of great value for you in the pursuit of the things that you have always wanted to achieve.

Dating a powerful man successfully

If you have set your eyes on an attractive man, here is how to cultivate a happy and healthy relationship.

Ensure you are in the relationship for the right reasons.

Some women want a successful man in the assumption that money will make them happy. Nothing could be further from the truth. Like we have pointed out earlier, dating a successful guy comes with its fair share of challenges. And these are in addition to the problems that you could face in a regular relationship. If your motivation is purely money, you will soon be frustrated, and you will not last in that relationship.

Are you genuinely attracted to this guy? Does he bring out the best in you? Has he demonstrated the need for your affection and support?

Your physical appearance.

As vain as this may sound, it is critical that you keep yourself looking your best. There are some things that you can do to keep yourself looking good: eat healthily and maintain a regular workout regime. Also treat yourself well and manage stress.

When you are going out with his friends, take special care to look sexy and sophisticated. Be someone your man can be proud of.

Do not have sex with him right away.

Although this goes for any relationship, it is even more important when you are dating a successful man. In all likelihood, he gets it thrown at him from every angle all the time. Do not be that girl. If you want something different; something special with this man, you must do things differently.

You want to gain his respect and build a stable, serious, and committed relationship. Get to know him first and enjoy his company. Maintain your grace until you find the relationship is getting serious and monogamous.

How to date a successful man - following your own dreams and goals will make him respect you more

Be your own person

Do not give up on your dreams. Do not change your life for him, because you will then soon resent him. If your job demands that you travel for three months a year, continue to do it until such a time when the relationship has moved to another level.

After he has dated you for some time and the mystery is gone, there must be something to keep him interested. The thing that will keep you irresistible to a powerful man is how stable and independent you are. Let him see you improving yourself all the time: taking a class, attending an entrepreneurs meet up. He will respect you for it. (Especially in a way that he seems as important)

Your guy has to know that you would not fall apart if he were not around you. This will keep the freshness in your relationship going for a long time.

Have your own support system.

Your partner has not excelled without having a busy work schedule. You have to cope with this side of him because this is who he is. Do not go into his life expecting to change his work-life balance because you will be greatly disappointed.

Do not be needy. Create your own support system that you can fall back on whenever he is super busy. Your man cannot be the center of your universe because, well, he is not available in the first place.

Have your other outlets: friends and hobbies. When you are dating a successful man, your friends are essential.

Successful guys actually prefer a woman who has a full life as well. And this makes a strong relationship. Do not lose your identity by completely attaching it to him.

You must display emotional maturity.

You will need loads of emotional maturity to make something out of a relationship with a successful man:

  • There are times when your partner will not be a joy to be around: when he is closing deals and averting possible disasters.
  • He may work long hours and even when he is with you, you might not have any meaningful conversations.
  • You will come across information in the media about your partner from time to time. You must have the ability to sift facts from rumors.
  • You might have to deal with increased scrutiny into your lives.
  • There are times when your partners past romantic dalliances will be brandished in the press. Indeed you might find yourself being constantly compared to a string of exes and probably not to a favorable outcome.

These situations and more require you to have emotional strength.

Final thoughts:

Be confident in your own skin and do not change who you are. Remember, he chose you above all other women. Never pressure yourself to act in a certain way to impress your successful guy. Your feminine charm is enough because you bring out his masculine side. He will be drawn in by your confidence and worthiness.

Contribute to the relationship as much as he does: bearing in mind that there are more important things than money. The joy, laughter, comfort, and order you bring into the relationship is invaluable. Never forget that and never feel inferior to him.

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The 7 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

NOT EVERY MAN OUT THERE IS an alpha male.

Not every guy who has a crush on you has it in him to force himself out of his comfort zone and make the move he is dying to make.

Some guys are introverted, shy and self-conscious. And they find it difficult to muster even the courage to say hello especially if they are intimidated by you.

You are likely to be intimidating to a guy if:

  • You have a successful career: Some guys may think dating a successful career woman is hot, but others will feel as if it is a blow to their ego, dating a CEO while they are probably in the mid-management in their industry.
  • He thinks you look like a model: A guy with the slightest ounce of insecurity in his bones will be intimidated by a gorgeous woman. He may think that your ‘out of his league’ or that you should be dating an equally handsome and extremely rich guy… which he is not.
  • You come from a wealthy family: If you come from a prominent family or have more money than a guy, he may feel intimidated. There is the fear that he may not live up to the kind of lifestyle you are accustomed to, or he is looked down upon by you or your family.
  • You are highly intelligent: You always got straight A’s in school and graduated top of the class. Along with being accepted into every university you applied to; you graduated with distinction. While intelligence has served you well in academia and your profession, some guys fear that they cannot measure up to you, and you will eventually lose interest anyway.
  • You ooze confidence: Do you exude are an aura of confidence wherever you go? Do you get into a crowded room and every head turns in your direction? Do you instantly draw people’s attention with the way you conduct yourself? Some guys will find you difficult to approach.

Unfortunately, it is not easy to figure out the shy guy. It is frustrating to determine whether he is intimidated by you or simply disinterested. Here are a few signs that he likes you but is too scared to say anything.

1. Body language

A guy who has a crush will steal glances at you a lot. The shy one, however, will sneak glances at you when you are not looking; but if you catch him looking at you, he will break eye contact.

Also, he will be anxious and fidgety around you. This guy wants to do everything perfectly. He is trying to be the best version of himself in front of you. Do not be surprised if he breaks into a sweat when he is in your presence.

Watch how he behaves around his friends. Is he the same way with them or is he confident and comfortable around them? If he is only shy in your presence, he is definitely interested.

What to do

Try to make him feel at ease by smiling at his jokes and asking questions about him. Show him respect, and he will slowly build the confidence that he needs to pursue you. Keep it simple with him for now, he may not understand your version of flirting.

2. He seems to be ‘around’ a lot.

If you work together, your crush will hang out by your locker a lot, or maybe go to your favorite coffee place all the time. He will go out of his way to do nice things for you: like grab you a coffee or a snack, share his lunch with you, save you a seat.

He will do everything to catch your attention, but that is it. Indeed, while he may be talkative with others, he will be quiet when he is around you.

These are all good signs. A guy will only hang around a woman he likes. It shows he feels good being around you and therefore he wants to be around you more. He is definitely into you but is probably too scared to tell you.

What to do

You will have to help him break out of his shell. Try to extend the conversation every time. Give him some sign to show him that you like spending time with him; and that you are also interested in him.

3. He loves to highlight his accomplishments

A guy who is intimidated by you will try to unconsciously convince you and him that he is worthy of you. So, he will somehow manage to mention his GPA, his position on the Lacrosse team and the fantastic presentation he made at the managerial meeting yesterday.

He will try to grab your attention with the story of how he rescued a small boy at the pool and how good he is at playing the electric guitar. You might mistake this for bragging, but he is only trying to impress you. He is intimidated by your resume, so he is decorating his.

What to do

Even though this can be exasperating, see the upside. This is his way of trying to impress you. Indulge him a little while and then change the subject to more important things.

4. He might avoid talking about himself

Opposite of bragging, he may avoid talking about his life: income, career, and spending habits. Since this guy is unnerved by you, he will not take the chance of exposing his weakness by talking to you about himself. He would rather talk about your achievements.

This is actually a good strategy. The more he talks about you, the more he learns about you and in the process he might find some common things and interests that you two share.

What to do

Try to extend your conversations with him. Accept his compliments and show him that you enjoy talking to him. This will give him more confidence to share the less glorious aspects of his life.

5. He is there when you need him

If you have a difficult situation and he gets to know of it, he will do even the impossible to solve it. This is his moment to shine, and his actions will say everything that his words have failed to say. He wants to show you he has many admirable attributes: he is supportive, sensitive and trustworthy. He will go the extra mile to make it up for what he lacks financially and professionally.

What to do

If you genuinely like the guy, reciprocate his kind gestures by being there for him during his own challenging situations. Also, let him know how grateful you are for his help.

A guy likes a woman who appeals to his inner hero. When he does all these things for you, it makes him feel manly. Do not ruin his fun by telling him how you are perfectly capable of doing whatever he wants to do for you. Let him feel that he is a man: let him carry the heavy items for you and tell him that you appreciate it. Something like ‘Thanks, I could use muscles like yours more often’ will get the point across.

Let him defend and protect you (even if you really do not need it).

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

6. He is awkward around you

He may be intimidated by the process of meeting someone he likes, so when/if he gets the courage to talk to you it can be awkward. Odd and bland conversation topics, him being awkward with his gestures.

What to do

Wait it out. He will get there eventually. If you want to see more of his normal side, then ask him about something he cares a lot about. It could be his job/hobby or something he follows (like sports or something science related).

7. He is insecure and jealous

Since he is unable to confess his feelings for you, he is also worried that another guy will attract your attention. Any man who seems to enjoy your presence triggers his hot button: your neighbor, colleagues, and other male friends.

Understand that he is worried that he is not good enough for you and that another man will successfully pursue you and hijack his chance of being with you. This may actually be the only time a guy who is feeling intimidated will act as though he really likes you.

What to do

Do not hold back from socializing with other people just because you fear his reaction. This will form the basis for controlling you, and you will eventually resent him for it. After all, he has not even admitted his feelings for you. He knows what he needs to do, let him do it.

Ultimately

Experts say that men are not concerned about your accomplishments. The one thing that the man cares about is how you make him feel. The man wants the feminine, kind, nurturing woman lurking inside that investment banker, fitness instructor, or top-notch attorney.

So, you know what to do:

  • Get in touch with your softer side and allow your feminine energy to shine.
  • Do not send a guy an email after a date; let him pursue you
  • Tell him your preference, then let him lead: hail the cab, choose the table, open doors you get the drift.
  • Do not talk about work on your date.
  • Dress up: wear light makeup, soft colors, a dress and heels on your dates. It makes him feel important to you.

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Should You Ignore Him to Get His Attention? The Pros and Cons of Playing It Cool…

Ignore Him to Get His Attention - Woman not happy she cant get attention from man

Ignore Him to Get His Attention - Woman not happy she cant get attention from man

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF YOU CAN'T GET HIS attention?

Either you seem him occasionally and he seems not to notice you at all?

Or maybe you are with him every day, but he seems hardly aware of your presence. 

The natural instinct for many women is to pursue the guy. They dress up and doll up hoping that he will finally notice them. They go out of their way to be extra friendly to him, and even smother him with attention.

However, experts say that this approach could not be more wrong. Chasing a guy is going against the natural order of things.

To catch a guy’s attention, the right strategy is to be ‘unavailable’.

Why you shouldn't chase him

If you chase him, he will run

If you pursue a man, you will scare him away. Some men interpret pursuing them as neediness on your part.

A man will be attracted to you more if he knows that you are independent and have a lot of options. If you are not difficult to get, then you are not worth having.

Men love to do the chasing

Experts say that when a man is chasing a woman, he is fulfilling his natural instincts. A guy loves to pursue a woman who is a little bit out of reach because of the challenge.

Every guy wants something unique in the woman he chooses; something special that no other man has been able to attain. It is a macho thing. A man loves the adventure that goes into wooing a girl.

Chasing you will make a guy feel manlier: the winner who successfully hunted and caught the object of his affection.

To be successful in your relationship, you must allow your man to feel like he is the only guy in the world that could have won you; that it was his unique blend of charisma and charm that finally won you over.

You love to be chased

Let us be honest; you love to be chased. You

  • Do not want to feel like you forced yourself to the guy
  • Want to be sure that this incredible guy was not just looking for a relationship with anyone
  • Want to know that it was you and only you that he was interested in.

It isn't a silly thing. It's the best way to know that he wants you and you will feel secure with him.

The PROS: Why you should ignore the guy

Ignoring a guy makes him feel that you is not readily available; that he must work harder to impress you. Experts advise that a woman must make the man feel that he worked hard to get her. Making yourself huntable adds value to your worth. Ignoring a guy, therefore, comes with immense benefits.

It helps him understand your worth

You must understand one thing: if the man you are attracted to has a lot going for him, he is already receiving a lot of attention from the girls and his ego is ballooning.

So, you should not treat him the way every other admirer out there is treating him. You must make him realize that he will not have you easily like he did other girls previously. This is what will set your relationship with him apart from the ones he has had.

You must be emotionally mature to set the right pace for your relationship. Emotional maturity means not allowing your feelings to lead you astray.

How do you want to be treated in that relationship? This is the best time to set the ground rules. Creating some distance will give a guy the opportunity to prove himself. Your emotional maturity and self-worth will surprise the guy and he will chase you.

It releases pressure on the guy

Sometimes the guy may be distracted for reasons that have nothing to do with you. Maybe things are not going well at work; or things are not going his way in the share market. As a result, he might not want to talk to you or to talk at all.

Men define themselves by what they see as their level of ‘success’. This could be their financial ability and the success of their career. If this ‘success’ is threatened, they will go quiet as they try to figure out a way to fix things.

Badgering him when he is going through a rough patch will be counterproductive. Let him know that you are there for him if he needs you but give him the space that he needs.

Sometimes a man needs to stew in his man cave and lick his wounds. He will value you for giving him the space that he needed.

The CONS: Can ignoring a guy backfire?

While ignoring a guy shows him that you are independent, playing hard to get with someone you are interested in can be counterproductive. Playing it too cool early in the relationship robs you of the opportunity to be really present. Guys are insecure beings too, and they need a sign that you are interested.

The downside to ignoring him

  • If he is not sure about how you feel about him, sometimes, ignoring him can be seen as validation. ‘If she ignores me, she must be seeing someone else’. Therefore, ignoring a guy becomes the yardstick to determine that you not are attracted to him.
  • A guy can ignore you by accident by being too busy or too wrapped up in his own affairs to adequately attend to things around him. If you ignore him, you do not achieve anything.
  • Better still a guy could be ignoring you for all the right reasons; he is attracted to you too much and he is trying not to appear needy and desperate.

In these situations, ignoring the guy will not get you the results that you desire.

‘Ignore' him the right way

Ignoring a guy is a delicate balance of making him think you are ignoring him and letting him believe that he has a chance. When you ignore a man, he must feel that he only has to work harder to win you. You should not disregard a guy completely: you will lose him. Always give him hope but do not make it obvious.

While at it, do not mope around waiting for him to notice you. If you wait patiently, you will wait a long while. Be smart and speed up the process by loving yourself.

Engage in confidence-boosting activities: do something that you really enjoy and look your best. Every time you see each other, let him find a confident, independent woman. Be kind to yourself and he will not be able to resist you.

Finally,

You do not want the chase to be temporary. After the guy has got you, he might realize it was all an illusion and you are not really the high-value woman he had made you out to be. You want to make the chase permanent.

A man will chase and commit to a woman whose world he wants to become part of. A woman who is passionate with an exciting world around her will attract an amazing man who will chase her for a very long time.

So… Raise your standards for love

Do not ever settle for less in your relationship. Keep your self-worth intact and do not lose sight of yourself. Your guy should know that if he ever cheats on you, or abuses you in any way, you will go back to your amazing single life.

It sounds like this is for you, but it is for him also. It lets him know he has to be his best, and that will keep him chasing you for the rest of your relationship.

8 Things Guys Do to Get Your Attention – How You Can Hack the Male Mind

Things Guys Do to Get Your Attention

Things Guys Do to Get Your Attention

HE LIKES ME…………… He likes me not.

Few things are as tortuous and confusing as trying to figure out whether a guy is attracted to you or not.

The situation is further complicated by the fact that men are not the greatest communicators. Guys find it especially difficult to tell girls how they really feel about them. As a result, they are more comfortable communicating their feelings with their actions.

While some signs of attraction and interest are more evident than others, it is pretty easy to know when a guy likes you when you know what signs to look out for.

1. It is in his body language

The body language speaks volumes where words fail. So, pay close attention and see if you can identify some of the following subtle behaviors:

  • Eye contact: If a guy likes you, he will use eye contact to convey interest. Naturally, people’s eyes wander around the room, but if it feels like he cannot tear his eyes from you, he might just be attracted to you.
  • A light touch: People touch the people they like. There is no better way to determine that a guy has romantic feelings towards you than when he looks for every excuse to touch you. He will pick lint off your jacket, gently guide you towards the door, and regularly brush your arm ‘accidentally.’
  • The way he faces: Does he typically face you with his feet when he’s in the same vicinity? Feet direction is thought to be more likely a subconscious choice due to their distance from the brain. If his feet are usually facing you, then it is an indication that he is thinking of you.
  • Leaning inward: A guy will lean towards a girl that he likes and distance himself from the ones he does not like. He will angle his pelvis to face you when you are standing and lean in when you are seated.

2. He asks you personal questions

A guy who is interested in you will want to know everything about you. He will, therefore, ask you a lot of questions. By enquiring about your personal life, he is hoping to get to know you better and also create a bond between the two of you. And he will want to know about it all:  your childhood, your family, your goals and even your fears.

Furthermore, this says a lot about his intelligence: he knows that as human beings, we have many sides and shades within us that we offer to the world. Asking questions is his way of trying to know the real you.

Asking you about yourself also indicates that he is enjoying his time with you. It is an easy and stress-free way to sustain a conversation and keep the dialogue flowing.

While listening to you helps him to get to know you better, it also gives him the opportunity to show you how much you mean to him.

Does he ask you questions about your work? About your family? About your upbringing? Does he recall specific information and topics you once talked about? Does he remember the smallest details from your past conversations? Yep, he is definitely falling for you.

3. He does everything to stand out and fend off competition.

A guy who likes you will do everything to impress you. He might show off his physical strength and bring up stories and anecdotes about his life that he knows will make him stand out. In some cases, even the most modest guy will become a bit of a show off around you. This is especially the case if a guy is the quiet type; he will feel compelled to brag about his accomplishments to impress you.

A guy who is attracted to you will also amp the risk factor when he is around you. It is not uncommon for a guy to intentionally put himself in the face of danger to catch your attention. Guys know women are attracted to bold and fearless males. And they are likely to deploy this strategy when an opportunity arises.

It is for the same reason that a guy will leap mindlessly to your defense, in something that he has no idea what it is all about; whether it is in social situations or on social media. He wants you to see him as your knight in shining armor.

Does he drive recklessly fast when he is with you? Now you know; he is very attracted to you.

4. He pays special attention to you.

If you are in a crowd of people, a man who is smitten will give you more attention than anyone else present. You can test it out: Move away from the group that he is in. Say you need a drink or something. Then don’t return. If he likes you, he will try to catch your eye across the room, or even follow you.

He will be sensitive to your moods, and he can tell when you are going through something. So, the next time he is pushing you to tell him whether everything is ok, take it as a compliment and not nagging. It just means that he cares much more than you probably realized.

Does he notice that you have changed the way you do your hair? Or that you are putting on different makeup? Wonder no more: he definitely likes you.

5. He wants to make your life easier

A guy who likes you will take care of you to his best of abilities. He will go out of his way to do nice things for you. It could be something as small as carrying your shopping bags. Does the guy:

  • Open the car door for you?
  • Open up the water bottle for you?
  • Bring you coffee?
  • Give you a ride home?
  • Help to set up your new TV?
  • Lend you his jacket when it is cold?
  • Offer to drive you to the airport when you have to catch a flight?

These small gestures indicate one thing: the guy is into you.

A quick note on shy guys

When I grew up I was shy. And shy guys act a little differently around girls that they like.

6. He may completely ignore you

Fear of rejection is a big thing for guys, especially when they are in public. It takes a lot of boldness for a guy to put himself in a position to be publicly rejected. So what does the guy do: he ignores you completely. Or he could ignore you when you are in the larger society, but talk to you when you are alone.

7. He opens up when you two are alone (or when he feels comfortable)

Is he completely oblivious to your presence when there are other people around but cheers up the moment the two of you are alone together? No doubt, he likes you, but he is intimidated, shy and/or scared.

This doesn’t make him any less of a man. He may have simply grown up with an overbearing parent/sibling/relative and simply isn’t sure what to do next with you.

8. He tries to predict something about you or tell you about yourself

If he doesn’t know better, it’s his way of telling you that he has thought about you. It can be cute (and less annoying) if you think of it that way.

Final word

In a study published by psychological Science, researchers discovered that women underestimate the amount of romantic interest shown to them by men. As such, by the time you start noticing gestures that indicated that a guy likes you, he will be deeply attracted to you.

You, therefore, need to decide quickly on what you will do about the situation. If you are interested in the guy, give your own signs that you are also into him. Meet him halfway; reciprocate by doing nice things for him.

If you are not interested in the guy, do not try to take advantage of his interest in you. Let him know immediately, and you might just get yourself a wonderful friend.

More information

Do you ever feel like you don't understand men? Like you have no idea how he's feeling or what he will do next? If this sounds like you then this short video will change your relationships with men forever.

In it, James Bauer describes the number one driving force in a mans brain and how he tries to satisfy it in everything that he does. Watch it now, your future self will thank you!

Thanks for reading Things Guys Do to Get Your Attention. If you have any comments questions or queries you can contact me here.

A Detailed ‘The Devotion System Review’ – Including 3 PROS and 3 CONS

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HOW MUCH DO YOU REALLY KNOW ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND MEN?

If a guy you had been seeing for a while didn’t call you for a couple of weeks would you know what to do?

Do you know exactly what a man needs in a relationship and how to give it to him?

Do you know how to turn your man on in a public place and have him thinking about you all day?

If your even a little unsure about any of these questions then they are answered in ‘The Devotion System’

The Devotion System Review

But are they answered well enough for you to change your relationships for the better? And who is Amy North anyhow…?

After getting a copy and going through the program I have written this review. It covers the good and the not so good. And it starts below

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What is The Devotion System (TDS) in one sentence?

The devotion system is a woman's guide to relationships with men.  

What’s in TDS

What’s in it:

  • Text – YES
  • Audio – No (available as extra)
  • Video – YES (Included in text)

Bonuses (Text Reports)

  • Textual Chemistry
  • Finding Love Online
  • Cheat-Proofing

TDS in detail

The Devotion System is best described (in my opinion) as a broad education about men and relationships. Rather than honing in on a particular topic or strategy, TDS covers the different stages and aspects of your relationship(s), with a focus on finding Mr. Right and keeping him.

The system is divided up into three different parts:

The 3 part system

Part 1 – Relationship basics

Find out about why what your doing right now isn’t working. And what might be standing between you and Mr Right. This section is primarily about you. Clarifying what you truly want in a relationship, understanding how to let go of what isn’t working for you now, and learning what you can do to attract your dream man.

What you will learn:

  • What men crave in a relationship and what will keep them around long term
  • The # ways that you communicate to him which turn him off
  • How to get him to try harder to please you
  • Why your man (or men in the past) have ‘tuned you out’ and what you can do about it

My opinion

Plenty of ‘be attractive on the inside’ type advice. Although it may seem redundant it is also a good reminder of what the ‘basics’ are. There are just statements on what you should do, no way to go about them. And it’s generally common sense. ‘Don’t judge others’ ‘get active’

There are a few techniques but they are few and far between.

Part 2 – Men

This section covers what makes men tick. The inner workings of men and why they do the things that they do. In particular, why men chase, why they pull away and how you affect both.

What you will lean:

  • The short sentence phrases that you can use to lead him where you want to go like a carrot on a stick
  • The 15 different types of men, what their relationship strengths and weaknesses are including which ones to avoid like the plague
  • How to spot a guy that you should avoid early, so you can move on with minimal fuss
  • The 10 question checklist to will help you detect men to avoid
  • 16 Easy to spot ways to know that he’s interested in you
  • How to feel empowered and confident when you are with a new man
  • What men love to feel when they are out on a date

My opinion

Good insights into the male psyche. What he is driven by and how you fit into how he sees his life. I (and i think other readers) would like some extrapolation here and some more information. There are points on how to get him to chase you, what men want from the woman in their lives, and what turns him off commitment.

The phrases will help you through the early to mid stages of your relationship. They are short, easy to customize and work into your circumstances and reusable really. Which is a plus.

The 15 different types of men will give you an insight into men. It will help you identify who your talking to / dating / in a relationship with, as well as know their relationship strengths and weaknesses. Quite insightful.

Part 3 – Stages of love

The last section covers relationships with a focus on you and techniques you can use to influence your future relationships. From bringing up marriage, to intimacy, to how to keep him committed.

What you will learn

  • The 10 question quiz to know what kind of woman you are and identify what type of partner is the best fit for you
  • The golden rules of communication with a man over different mediums
  • The 5 levels of intimacy that you need to adhere to and do for your partner  if you want to completely narrow his focus on you
  • How to make him addicted to you – subtle techniques to draw his affection and give him ‘lifelong love goggles’
  • The marriage maker line – How to bring up marriage to your man
  • The 11 indicators that tell if your relationship is on rocky ground and what to do about it
  • What to look for when he is straying (and what to do about it).
  • The top 20 ways women sabotage their relationships
  • The special spots on a mans body that will have him craving your touch
  • The #1 rule to talking while being intimate with your man. It will change how you approach your special alone time together
  • 20 gestures you can use to get his attention and have him thinking only of you the next time your out in a crowded room

My opinion

Part 3 is mostly about getting serious about your relationship.

There is a lot of techniques and tips in this section. From discovering the ‘type of woman’ you are, to learning how to keep him monogamous and some intimacy related advice. Anyone looking for information about ‘the back end’ of a relationship will like this.

Amy North - The Devotion System Author

A Quick Note on Amy North

Who is Amy North?

Amy North has had a brain dump into this program. She is clearly knowledgeable and has put much (if not everything) of what she knows into this program.

According to the program, she is a relationship and dating coach (not a therapist) with 5 years experience from Vancouver, Canada.

The PROS and CONS of ‘The Devotion System’

PROS

The information

There is A WHOLE LOT of information in this program. It’s definitely more of a breadth than a depth type. There are plenty of listicles where the dot points are something new. The program starts off a little slow in part one but picks it up in parts two and three.

Easy to read and understand

The program is written in a friendly and conversational tone. The same way that you would have a conversation with a friend. There’s no industry specific words, everything is in everyday language. The videos not only help break the text up, but they are also a good way to recap on the program. After you have finished, if you want to simply freshen up or a quick reminder on what was covered, the videos are a good way to do this.

Easy navigation

Because this is a broad program its good to see that it’s easy to maneuver around. It’s not a big thing but it does help when your looking for something specific. Things are clearly labelled and you can click to where you want to go from the contents.

CONS

A little preachy

There’s plenty of ‘these are the qualities to display’ but nothing behind that. No, here’s why you are displaying them and here’s how to fix that…

One speed

The program only has one speed as well. Full pelt, information at you. There isn’t a different speed. And although there are videos as well as text, it doesn’t come across as a different perspective, or different format even. The videos the presenter is reading off of a cue, it’s pretty much the same as reading it.

What next?

The downside of being a broad system is that there isn’t that depth of information. The what happens if he does this, what happens if he does that. This doesn’t make the system easy to remember and implement. So although there is tips, techniques, and even sentence starters and text message templates, there isn’t really a plan.

Bonuses

Textual Chemistry

A 20 page basic guide on texting, how to text, how not to text and finally what to text. Not all of the ‘text templates’ are good in my opinion but there is a few things here that you can use. This is a very basic guide.

Finding Love Online

A 21 page guide about with general advice about finding love online. The guide covers, how to build a profile, general rules to sending messages, what to look for in profiles to avoid and how to meet guys that you actually want to meet. I think there is some valid information here that even serial internet dating (and dating app users) won’t know, there’s also plenty of common sense.

Cheat-Proofing

A 27 page guide and a basic education into cheating as it applies to men. In particular there’s 7 reasons why men cheat, the 7 components of lasting love as well as signs that he’s cheating. This guide is only a quick guide, and some information in it is covered in the main program, but it is worth a read.

The Devotion System – My Opinion

Firstly, i’d like to say that this is a good broad base of information. As i’ve already said (but think it’s worth saying one more time) it covers a lot. And no matter what stage of a relationship you will find something relevant. Especially if your single and dating.

Although this system is more theory than action, I recommend it. Especially if you feel lost and like you have no control over the men in your life. You will learn something. It isn’t a silver bullet and it isn’t going to solve everything, however it is going to educate yourself about men and make you more aware of the relationship dynamics between you and them.

You can get your copy of The Devotion System here (for the cheapest price it is available)

If you have a question, query or comment about the program then you can contact me here.

Thanks for reading my The Devotion System review

“The Apps Don’t Work” – 7 Old-Fashioned Ways How To Find A Date Offline

The apps dont work - old fashioned ways to find a date offline

The apps dont work - old fashioned ways to find a date offline

YOU'VE TRIED ALL THE apps. The new ones and the popular ones. You’ve tried the older style websites and even the specialist niche websites…

And you're still single…

Maybe it’s time to consider some technology-free options. So in that vein, here are 7 old-fashioned ways how to find a date offline, and meet that someone special

Volunteering

Volunteering is fantastic in more ways than one:

  • You are giving back. Immense satisfaction comes with giving back to the community
  • You enjoy the company of like-minded individuals.
  • Volunteering allows you to meet your partner in the noblest way.
  • You have the privilege to know your partner quickly and in the most natural state: no dating games.

Volunteering places you on the path of people who have the same values, spirit, and mindset as your own. When you connect with a potential partner through volunteering, you start out knowing that the two of you have some values in common and a load of similar experiences to look back on.

In 2013, Voluntary Service Overseas (VSO) realized that a number of their volunteers had fallen in love while volunteering abroad. During Valentine’s Day, the organization made this the theme of their message. They encouraged single people to volunteer, telling them that on top of helping a community to fight poverty, they could possibly find love.

So get out there and find something that you would love to do to give back to the society, volunteer and possibly fall in love.

Go to places of worship and weddings

You may not even be religious for all you know, but that’s beside the point. Places of worship and weddings are a great place to find potential partners. The sense of familiarity that comes with the church and related ceremonies means that a lot of barriers are already broken. As such, even complete strangers have a sense of familiarity with them.

When you see a man that you are attracted to, you will have the confidence to approach him. Being in a familiar territory also encourages the guys to approach.

Tip: Try to sit somewhere visible where there is some space for a single guy to sit next to. Also, make a rule to sit next to the first single guy you see; and guess what, you might just change your life.

Take hobbies that get you interacting with people

The best partner is the one who shares your lifestyle and your preference in how you spend your time and money. Making time for your hobbies allows you to connect with like-minded people. Challenge yourself to invest in your social calendar.

Having shared interests is a great strength in any long-term relationship: take up salsa dancing, attend vintage car rallies or go to cheer your favorite team. You will be off to a good start if you meet a guy doing something you love. Your shared interest gives you a ready topic of conversation to get things going.

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Attend your friends' parties

Meeting a guy through your friends can be a real bonus: You have something in – common – the mutual friend and your friend can vouch for his character. According to research conducted by Mic in 2015, more 18 – 24 years old met their current partners through mutual friends than through any other means.

Meeting a potential partner through a friend is reassuring because you can trust your friend’s judgment.

Having a friend’s stamp of approval of a partner is not only helpful in making the initial connection; it is also important once the relationship gets going. Research shows that people who meet through friends feel more supported in their relationships.

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Sit at the bar

You probably already spend a good bit of time out at bars and clubs socializing. But, if you are more intentional, your visit to the bar can be extra productive, and you could meet someone special.

  • Do not visit just any club. Choose a place that puts time, effort and thought into the establishment. This is the kind of place where you are likely to meet thoughtful, hardworking guys who value themselves.
  • Sit at the bar if you can. The bar is the point of focus in the room, and it is much more inviting than the individual tables. Even the most confident man will hesitate before approaching a woman seated at a table. The bar will encourage a guy to approach and start a natural conversation.
  • If you are a regular at a club, befriend the bartender. The girls and guys behind the bar know everything. They would be a perfect source of intel on potential guys. They could not only point you in the right direction but also steer you away from harm’s way.

Alumni events

Alumni events are great for meeting great guys. An alumni event is designed around talking to others and exchanging information. It is, therefore, an easy way to make a connection that could turn into a long-lasting school romance.

Whether it is the graduate school, college or high school, or even the elementary school, an alumni event is a non-stressful way to meet a quality man. Why? The guys at these events already share with you a fundamental commonality and connection.

Whichever guy you bump into, you already have some insight about him. Also, you may know some of the same people, which will help to increase the bond that the two of you share.

Church functions

You may not be religious, but places of worship are a great place to meet great guys. However, you have to be strategic about your sitting position. Try to sit somewhere visible where a single guy can sit next to or near you. In fact, why don’t you sit next to the first single guy that you see? You might just make his day.

Weddings are also significant potential functions to meet great guys. If you know the bride or groom separately, you are able to meet an entirely new network of the couple’s friends. The fact that they were invited to the wedding in the first place means that they are quality guys.

Final thoughts

Finding the right guy is not the end. More work will go into building a great relationship. Consider the following tips for building a healthy, long-lasting relationship.

  • Be mindful of the law of attraction. You use the law of attraction in your love life all the time; whether you are aware of it or not. Question is, what are you attracting?

You can attract love, companionship, and joy or you can attract loneliness. Desperation and complaining; ‘I am single and lonely, and it seems there is no one out there for me’ will frustrate all your good efforts to find a great relationship.

How many desperate people have you seen in great relationships?

  • Seek for partnership, not just romance. It is exciting to have a guy who sweeps you off your feet. However, finding a partner who likes to give and take, who seeks your opinion and considers it, is even a greater blessing.

Instant sexual attraction often fades: Most good love is a slow burn.

  • When you meet someone, do not hurry things along. When you connect with a guy, allow that connection to grow. Do not play games, apply seduction techniques or manipulate the man.
  • Date smart: watch out for the red flags. Red flags indicate that the relationship will not grow into a healthy, long-lasting love. Pay close attention to the guy and trust your instincts. If you ever feel undervalued, insecure or ashamed, it is probably a good idea to reevaluate the relationship.
    • Is the guy alcohol dependent?
    • Is he having trouble honoring his commitments?
    • Is he excessively jealous about your other interests?
    • Is the relationship exclusively sexual?

Lastly:

Invest in yourself. Even if you find a great guy, you will not have a great relationship if there are some parts of you missing. You do not need to be with someone to feel content. You must be whole by yourself.

Do not look for someone to heal you from your insecurities; what you need is to heal from your insecurities so that you can find someone.

Thanks for reading my guide on how to find a date offline. If you have any questions or queries, then contact me here

The Ex Factor Guide Review – 3 PROS and CONS of the Program

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IF YOU HAVE SEEN THE VIDEO on ExFactorGuide.com, you are right to be a little skeptical.

It is a tall order to write a book that will bring your boyfriend back and make all the claims that Brad Browning (the author) does.

After getting access to the program, I have gone through it a few times and picked it apart so you can see if it’s worth your time or not.

This review is my take on the program after going through the material.

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What is The Ex Factor Guide (EFG) in one sentence:

The Ex Factor Guide is a simple to follow guide to help get your ex back.

EFG in more detail:

Being involved in a recent break up is emotionally draining. The rollercoaster of emotions as well as the getting used to a new normal is overwhelming

It can feel hopeless and be a lonely place to be. And all these emotions can make you do things that you don’t usually do

Especially if your breakup was a surprise and you didn’t want to break up in the first place

But if he broke it off with you, it isn’t necessarily the end of the relationship

If you still love him. You still want him. You think about him often. Then if there is any chance of getting back together then you’d need to get it together

To help, what if you could have a steady, calm and experienced voice in your ear, giving you guidance in repairing things between you and your boyfriend?

Enter Brad Browning and his Ex Factor Guide

 

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Although the product is shown in boxes, it is only available as a digital download

 

Brads 156-page guide (along with bonuses) aims to give you a structured plan to follow for rekindling and reigniting the flame of your relationship

The guide has 14 chapters that detail his plan for you to get back together with your boyfriend

Chapters

  • Prologue: The Big Picture
  • Chapter 1: Introduction
  • Chapter 2: Attractive Characteristics
  • Chapter 3: Unattractive Characteristics
  • Chapter 4: Panic and Acceptance
  • Chapter 5: Start With “No Contact”
  • Chapter 6: Start Dating Other Men
  • Chapter 7: What If He Contacts
  • Chapter 8: What If He Doesn’t Contact
  • Chapter 9: The “Date”
  • Chapter 10: Seduce Him All Over Again
  • Chapter 11: Sex!
  • Chapter 12: Preventing
  • Chapter 13: Desperation
  • Chapter 14: Conclusion

In the chapters, Brad goes through the different steps of the process. When to start communicating, what to say, where to meet, how far to take it etc.

EFG has advice for those complicated situations such as:

  • He’s sending you mixed messages that you can’t read
  • You think you might have pushed him away but are not sure how
  • He’s been distant for a while and doesn’t seem like himself
  • You get the feeling he is seeing someone else
  • He seems unsure if he wants you in his future or not
  • And others listed on his website

What’s exactly in it:

Brad Browning's comprehensive guide does have:

  • Text – yes
  • Audio – yes
  • Video – no
  • Bonuses – (Text versions of)
    • Why men pull away
    • Flawless fat loss fitness guide
    • How to read a man

Other things you should know

  • The program is a digital download meaning that there are no physical versions available. The good news here is that you will be able to download the program within 5 minutes of purchasing it.
  • Brad offers ‘email coaching’ where he will answer questions, for a fee.
  • After the purchase page, you will receive an email with your login details and a link to the membership area. Once there you can download the text files and audio files (audio files via .zip) to your PC or device.

PROS and CONS

PROS

Practical guide

There is some theory in here explaining this or that, but generally, this is a guide to get things done. Actions, strategies and sometimes even exactly what to say word-for-word

Simple to follow

There aren’t any huge surprises here and no guessing as what to do next etc. The program is in order, and any terminology used by Brad is explained. There is also an option for email coaching so if you do have problems, you have the choice to email Brad himself.

Simple to understand

The book is written in conversational English which made it easy to read. I also liked the fact that I could listen to the program in my car or while out and about. The quality of the audio recording is very good

CONS

A bit manipulative

The EFG has its moments where it is a bit manipulative and you may have moral issues with implementing all of his tactics and strategies. There’s a part in there where he talks about making a fake Facebook profile to get your ex to be jealous enough to get back with you… Needless to say that I don’t think this is a good idea under any circumstances

Over-explained

Don’t get me wrong there is good information in this program, however, it can seem that at times the author is explaining things that don’t need explaining

“Look feminine and pretty. Just look ‘chill’ and take a few deep breaths. Don’t just constantly stare at him  . . ..” – Page 112

I can understand that people might want clarification, but too much can also make people stilted and not-themselves

No references

Studies are referred to here but I could not find a reference

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Bonuses

Why Men Pull Away

Overview:

Is your boyfriend pulling away for no apparent reason? This 30-page guide highlights the 7 reasons why men start becoming distant, and possibly why your relationship broke down. There is also some broad insights into fixing these 7 issues

My opinion:

Some highlights in this bonus. The reasons why men pull away can highlight areas in your relationship where it went wrong if you were unsure. I can picture some people reading this and nodding. However, the advice on how to fix the issues is quite broad. I.e. ‘build more trust and open lines of communication’. ‘Don’t be controlling or jealous’… You probably have heard a lot of this advice before

I think there are some holes in this bonus guide as well. Meaning there are some reasons why your relationship didn’t work that aren’t in here

Flawless Fat Loss Fitness Guide

Overview:

This is a comprehensive 249-page guide to losing weight. It’s a wake-up call and a defined and detailed plan of action which will help anyone who is unsure about the topics of weight loss and health more generally. There are comprehensive sections on both diet and exercise

My opinion:

This is A LOT of detail. Those who like numbers, stats and things to remember are going to enjoy it. For the rest of us, the author does give quite a few rules of thumb, and there are quite a few things to follow and targets to hit in this plan. It also isn’t ‘done for you’ you will need to research and figure the finer details out for yourself. The author is also a little ‘over-confident’ at times which was off-putting. Overall it is a bit hard to follow and is more suited for people who want to start bodybuilding, rather than simply lose a little bit of weight

How to Read a Man

Overall:

This 24-page bonus guide is all about what is happening between his ears. It contains 15 deciphered-for-you scenarios to help you really understand what he is thinking and feeling when he does particular things. All 15 scenarios relate to getting your ex back

My opinion:

There is some good information here, although it mostly reads as common sense. This guide will help give you a second opinion on your relationship with your ex and can help make it a bit clearer on your particular situation. Short and to the point it’s a handy guide to have. Not to sit and read through but more to refer to when required

Summary

There are a few highlights in this program, but generally, it is a simple guide. There isn’t so much new information here as much as laying out a plan and simplifying a game plan, with the help of some common sense

On a more positive side, is that this is a practical guide. You can listen to this once and get a good idea exactly what the plan is. Am I confident in the plan though? It seems solid in some areas and a bit haphazard in others, as well as loosely referring to ‘studies’ that aren’t referenced

Some of the techniques are quite good and as I said, there are a few highlights. But generally, this isn’t as informed as other info products

Overall, I give the Ex Factor Guide  3 out of 5 stars

If you only plan on purchasing one program to help you get your ex back then id try a different one. If however, you want your best shot at getting your ex back, and you want every piece of information on the topic then there are some nuggets you want in this program

The good news is that you can get the program, have a look at it yourself and decide if it’s what you want, or get yourself a refund.

You can get the program here

5 Questions To Ask Your Future Husband…

Questions to Ask a Guy Before Deciding Hes the One - Woman on a Date with Man

Questions To Ask Your Future Husband - Woman on a Date with Man

WOULDN'T IT BE GREAT IF the men you dated came with stickers?

Stickers that say, ‘I am not trustworthy’, ‘I am never getting married’, ‘I will end up cheating on you!’, or something like ‘I am a man of integrity, and I will be a great husband and dad’.

Well, the stickers may not exist in the real sense of the word; but the messages do. Lauren Frances indicates that men give clues that can help you know their personality, interpret their agenda and spot any red flags. Better still, you can obtain all the information that you need from your potential partner simply by asking him questions.

Men have their own relationship goals, and they would be happy to share them with a woman. Many women do not know where a relationship is going because they never ask, and only muster the courage to ask three or four years later.

In ‘Act like a Lady, Think like a Man’, Steve Harvey interviews a lot of men who were self-proclaimed ‘players’. All the ‘players’ indicated that if the women had quizzed them upfront about their intentions, they would have told them right away that they were not looking for anything serious. The guys indicated that the women they dated didn’t ask the essential questions for fear of running the guys off, so they (the guys) just strung the women along.

Why you should ask questions

Just because you love each other does not mean you will automatically create a great life together. Many times, great relationships end despite people loving each other deeply; one is too ambitious while the other is not ambitious enough, one wants children, but the other one does not, one is self-driven while the other one is a slob. So you see, you better ask the questions early enough before you invest so much time, effort and emotions.

Lose the fear

The first step is to get over the fear of losing a man by asking him important questions. In every area of life, taking chances to get what you want is much more productive than sitting around being too scared. Just stop being afraid already. If being clear about your requirements means you risk him walking away, then it is a risk you are going to have to take. In any case, you will only scare the wrong guys off.

What to do

To get the most out of your relationships, you must change your strategy. Start by ensuring that the man is really clear from the word go about what he wants out of his life and his relationship with you.

Q1: What are your plans for the future?

This is truly an important question; you need to know whether you and him share goals and dreams. From his answer, you will able to determine whether:

  • You fit in his plan
  • What role you can play in the plan.
  • You need to remove yourself from the equation.

The man you want to involve yourself with is the one who has a solid plan; one that you can see yourself in. If he has no vision, you do not want to be part of that confusion and mayhem. He is not going anywhere and sooner or later, you will be stuck too.

Q2: How do you feel about me?

This is a question that you will ask after a few dates. If he cannot tell how he feels about you after a month of dating, then he does not feel anything for you; he just wants something. At this point, you are not looking for him to confess his undying love for you; it is too soon anyway.

However, you can expect answers like: I love talking to you, I always wonder what you are doing, and I feel a little better whenever you come around. In other words, his answer should make you feel fantastic. He may not be in love with you just yet, but he will let you know that he is crazy about you and he wants to pursue a long-term relationship with you.

If you realize that his feelings for you are barely scratch the surface, and he is nowhere near where you want him to be, step on the brakes until you hear the things that you need to hear from him.

Q3: Do you believe in marriage?

This sounds like a scary question to ask, but look at this way; you are not telling him that you want to get married to him now, you are only asking him what he believes.

This question will help you to establish whether the guy wants to get married in the first place. That he is in a relationship with you does not necessarily mean that he wants to get married. Also, the fact that he has been dating you for a while is no guarantee that he wants to marry YOU.

Q4: How do you feel about having children?

Over the last few decades, things have changed, and more people feel less need to have children. If you want children, it is best to find out if your man wants children as well before you commit to him. Do not make any assumptions.

If you realize that both of you want children, great! Find out more about what he thinks of children:

  • How many children does he want?
  • How does he feel about having all boys? Or all girls?
  • What would he do if you discovered that as a couple you could not have children?
  • Is he open to alternative ways of having children; like adoption?

Q5: What are your thoughts about religion?

Religion is a big issue, and it is ironic that many couples do not discuss it before committing. If religion is especially important to you, it is prudent to ask all the relevant questions.

  • Does he practice any religion?
  • If the two of you practice different religions, who will be willing to switch to the other’s?
  • What religion will your children practice?

Quick tip: Ask your guy about his relationship with God. If you realize that the man has no relationship with God, has no belief system or guiding force in his life, this might be a huge problem.

  • What moral barometer does he answer to?
  • What makes him feel whole?
  • What is going to make him do right by you?

By all means, you can date a guy who does not go to church or have a relationship with God, but if his core beliefs do not match with yours, you are likely to have challenges in your relationship.

Final thoughts

  • Men love to talk about themselves; they do this because they know that to get you, they have to impress you. Allow him to impress. The more inquisitive and interested you are, the more the information he will give you.
  • Believe what you hear. Do not stick around hoping that the guy will change his mind about something down the road. For instance, if he does not want kids, he will probably not change his mind, regardless of how deeply he feels about you.
  • Do not be afraid of the answers you might get. See the answers as a way to plan your future. Be proud that you are proactively creating a future that you will love.
  • Do your best to be equally honest about your expectations from the start. Be absolutely clear that your man understands that you are looking for long-term relationship, marriage, children…. whatever it is, define it for him so that you are on the same page.

Lastly:

The reason why you are asking all these questions is because you like a guy and you want to find out if the two of you have a future together. You do not intend to make him feel uncomfortable.

So, do not ask all the questions in one sitting and do not ask them in a formal way. You are not interrogating the guy. Be tactful; make the conversation as casual and as fun as you can.

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