SUCCESSFUL MEN ARE INTELLIGENT AND SELF-DRIVEN
They are also highly skilled at what they do, which is why they excel. They are not intimidated by challenges; indeed, he thrives in the face of challenges. They are also not afraid of hard work and putting in the long hours. They are focused, confident and charismatic.
So what woman wouldn’t want to be with this kind of a man…?
The stakes are high
However, high-quality men come with high stakes. There will be some unique challenges and compromises when you are dating a successful man.
Time: Success comes with a hectic life. A successful man barely has time for you. You may have to put up with his long hours at work, unanswered phone calls, and unreplied text messages. You may also have to put up with canceled dinners and business calls during your time together.
His ego: You are dating a man who has achieved certain accomplishments; probably many of them. This man is fearless, and he may be a tad ‘over-confident’, even intimidating.
Friends and social interactions differences: This man you have chosen has friends and colleagues who are probably highly educated or extremely wealthy. His taste, style, and social life are incredibly refined. You must, therefore, educate yourself on how to look and act around his friends and colleagues, because you cannot afford to embarrass yourself and him in front of his associates.
Pleasing him might be a tall order: It might be really challenging to treat him because he has everything he wants. So giving him gifts and surprises might be a problem. You must learn to be creative and come up with gifts that are thoughtful.
The power struggle: When your partner brings in more money than you can ever hope to have, it creates an unequal relationship. You will have to learn to live with the higher degree of financial power that he yields.
The suspicion: You may not be able to avoid the label of ‘gold digger’ by society. In particular his friends, family and work colleagues.
Security: You will have to deal with women who will always be competing for his attention.
On the other hand, dating a successful guy is quite advantageous. You will not have to struggle with financial burdens that many couples are grappling with. Indeed, you will live a life of luxuries and glamour. A successful guy is also likely to encourage you to achieve your own dreams. His connections will also be of great value for you in the pursuit of the things that you have always wanted to achieve.
Dating a powerful man successfully
If you have set your eyes on an attractive man, here is how to cultivate a happy and healthy relationship.
Ensure you are in the relationship for the right reasons.
Some women want a successful man in the assumption that money will make them happy. Nothing could be further from the truth. Like we have pointed out earlier, dating a successful guy comes with its fair share of challenges. And these are in addition to the problems that you could face in a regular relationship. If your motivation is purely money, you will soon be frustrated, and you will not last in that relationship.
Are you genuinely attracted to this guy? Does he bring out the best in you? Has he demonstrated the need for your affection and support?
Your physical appearance.
As vain as this may sound, it is critical that you keep yourself looking your best. There are some things that you can do to keep yourself looking good: eat healthily and maintain a regular workout regime. Also treat yourself well and manage stress.
When you are going out with his friends, take special care to look sexy and sophisticated. Be someone your man can be proud of.
Do not have sex with him right away.
Although this goes for any relationship, it is even more important when you are dating a successful man. In all likelihood, he gets it thrown at him from every angle all the time. Do not be that girl. If you want something different; something special with this man, you must do things differently.
You want to gain his respect and build a stable, serious, and committed relationship. Get to know him first and enjoy his company. Maintain your grace until you find the relationship is getting serious and monogamous.
Be your own person
Do not give up on your dreams. Do not change your life for him, because you will then soon resent him. If your job demands that you travel for three months a year, continue to do it until such a time when the relationship has moved to another level.
After he has dated you for some time and the mystery is gone, there must be something to keep him interested. The thing that will keep you irresistible to a powerful man is how stable and independent you are. Let him see you improving yourself all the time: taking a class, attending an entrepreneurs meet up. He will respect you for it. (Especially in a way that he seems as important)
Your guy has to know that you would not fall apart if he were not around you. This will keep the freshness in your relationship going for a long time.
Have your own support system.
Your partner has not excelled without having a busy work schedule. You have to cope with this side of him because this is who he is. Do not go into his life expecting to change his work-life balance because you will be greatly disappointed.
Do not be needy. Create your own support system that you can fall back on whenever he is super busy. Your man cannot be the center of your universe because, well, he is not available in the first place.
Have your other outlets: friends and hobbies. When you are dating a successful man, your friends are essential.
Successful guys actually prefer a woman who has a full life as well. And this makes a strong relationship. Do not lose your identity by completely attaching it to him.
You must display emotional maturity.
You will need loads of emotional maturity to make something out of a relationship with a successful man:
- There are times when your partner will not be a joy to be around: when he is closing deals and averting possible disasters.
- He may work long hours and even when he is with you, you might not have any meaningful conversations.
- You will come across information in the media about your partner from time to time. You must have the ability to sift facts from rumors.
- You might have to deal with increased scrutiny into your lives.
- There are times when your partners past romantic dalliances will be brandished in the press. Indeed you might find yourself being constantly compared to a string of exes and probably not to a favorable outcome.
These situations and more require you to have emotional strength.
Be confident in your own skin and do not change who you are. Remember, he chose you above all other women. Never pressure yourself to act in a certain way to impress your successful guy. Your feminine charm is enough because you bring out his masculine side. He will be drawn in by your confidence and worthiness.
Contribute to the relationship as much as he does: bearing in mind that there are more important things than money. The joy, laughter, comfort, and order you bring into the relationship is invaluable. Never forget that and never feel inferior to him.
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