WHERE DO YOU GO FOR ADVICE when you're out of ideas and you've tried (or refused to try) everything your girlfriends have suggested…?
Dating books and guides aren't all created equal. In fact, there are many out there that give some pretty bad advice…
I couldn't believe my eyes when I once read a ‘tip' on how to create a fake Facebook account to make a guy jealous… That's the type of advice that you want to avoid.
So here are my filtered-for-rubbish top 10 best dating book picks. I have chosen each one for two reasons:
- They are written by real experts and contain good solid advice
- They're a little different from the others
1. His Secret Obsession – James Bauer
Discover a man's innermost desire
Ever wondered why men do what they do, and make the choices that they make?
The weird part about it is, that 99.9% of men don’t even know this themselves. (I didn’t before I read through this book).
The answer lies in the male ‘primal drives'. And when you learn to work with them instead of against them, you can give him what he wants, and get what you want at the same time
And it can be as easy as simply changing your language or how you ask for things
I recommend this book to any woman wanting to have better relationships with men. If you only read one of the following best dating books, then it must be this one!
Get your copy of His Secret Obsession here or read a more detailed review (I did for another site) here
|Information is fantastic and explained well||A little more expensive than other books|
|Audiobook and bonuses included||The author is a little rude sometimes (I think unknowingly)|
2. He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys – Greg Behrendt
You know those cliche lines that men say when you want to have a relationship…
- “I don't want to get hurt again”
- “Let's not ruin the friendship”
- “I'm not ready I just got out of a relationship with a bad break up”
Greg Behrendt says these are all different ways of saying that He's Just Not That Into You
This book focuses on weeding out the guys that you meet that aren't that interested, so you can spend more time with the one that is
It's well reviewed in fact, many say the book is mandatory reading for single women…
Read more detailed reviews and get your copy of He's Just Not That Into You here
|Well written and easy to understand||Niche topic|
|Audiobook available||Book's simplistic approach may not always be appropriate in life|
3. Text the Romance Back – Michael Fiore
Having trouble getting and keeping his attention?
Question: How much can you make a man think about you via a simple text?
Answer: You’d be surprised. You can make him obsessed
This concise book goes through 8 different types of text messages that reach in and speak to the core of any man. Leaving him thinking about you.
You can even use them with a guy you’ve only recently met to help amp up the attraction or to move things along if you're further along in a relationship.
Well worth the read. A guide focused on turning your mobile phone into a remote control.
|Done for you texts that show you how he likes to be talked to||Michael Fiore is not for everyone|
|Audiobook and bonuses included||Only one focus in the book, the start of conversations|
4. All the Rules – Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider
A refreshingly blunt approach to relationships
Filled with common sense suggestions, hilarious anecdotes, and a wealth of valuable information, All the Rules is written to build your sense of self-confidence around relationships
This open-and-honest guide reveals the real rules of the game, along with the many dos and don'ts of having a successful relationships
In it, you will learn how to accept the fact you aren't always going to win, and how to move on when it's over. You will also learn about how to get him to treat you with dignity and respect
All the Rules will help you take you into the committed relationship you deserve. A must read for any woman from 18 to 80 who is looking to find the man of her dreams.
Get your copy of All the Rules here
|Fun and easy to read||Information is a bit dated|
|Prepares you for the real world of dating and relationships||Some of the information is very sexist in nature|
5. The Devotion System – Amy North
Ever wondered how some women keep men, while others don't…?
Amy North reveals that keeping a man is not a secret or some special thing that is reserved only for some women. It’s that these women know what to do to keep a man devoted
This book is jam-packed full of practical information about relationships, as well as targeted sections about attracting and keeping your dream guy
It includes three main sections, general relationship information, what makes men tick and how the stages of love differ and how to act in each one to keep him ‘on the hook’
You can expect to recognize some male behaviors and understand the relationship dynamic better after reading this book
It’s a great option if you want a broad education about men and relationships
|Detailed and comprehensive||Author preaches a bit|
|Easy to navigate||A little dense with information|
6. Never Chase Men Again – Bruce Bryans
38 hot secrets to help you score your dream guy
Tired of dating those guys who only seem to want one thing. ..?
You know the guys that wine and dine you as long as you keep things on a shallow level, but as soon as you start acting like you want to take things a little further, run for the hills?
Read all about keeping your man interested by doing that “one thing” most women are scared to death of doing once they find the right guy.
You will learn how to reject a man's undesirable behaviors and get him to take you seriously or hit the road
Most importantly learn how you can be in charge of the relationship without making it look that way and get rid of the deadwood before it starts piling up in your firebox.
Get your copy of Never Chase Men Again here
|Goes past the shallow relationship and to the real deal||Fails to deliver anything new|
|Teaches you while making you laugh along the way||Some feel it tells women how to change in order for men to like them|
7. He’s Not That Interested, He’s Just Passing Time – Bruce Bryans
40 games guys play when they are just passing the time with you
The next time a guy tells you he has “commitment issue,” what he is really trying to say, is that he really isn't that interested in you
There can be many reasons why a guy might suddenly pull away from a relationship as things start to get serious. But chances are good, that it all still boils down to the same thing
He was never that interested in you in the first place
This book will give you a better understanding of how to skip past the losers and find a winner. The one who isn't afraid to make a commitment. The one person who is ready to spend the rest of their life with you
By the time you have reached the end, you will be ready to get out there, see the signals for yourself and find your Mr. Right!
Get your copy of He's Not That Interested, He's Just Passing Time here
|Good basic information||Book tends to point every situation in the same direction|
|Concise and well written||Experienced daters may find boring|
7. How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall In Love – Michael Fiore
How you kiss him can keep him from pulling away
Kissing is really the gateway to the physical side of any relationship. So if you don't get it right, it can really stimy the relationship…
It can even put off a great guy because he thinks your not good at the ‘physical stuff'
In this book, Michael Fiore answers some of the most common questions around kissing and ‘getting physical', including:
- What kissing actually means to men
- How men secretly yearn to kiss and be kissed
- How to get him to let down his shields
- Where you should focus your attention to get him to make the first move
If that barrier between flirting and getting physical with a man seems to be the barrier in your relationship(s) then this is the book for you
The video on the website has some great tips as well. You can get to the How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall in Love website here
|Practical advice in an easy-to-read book||Not everyone likes the way Michael Fiore writes/reads|
|Audiobook and a few bonuses included||Very niche, won't help everyone|
8. Men Don't Love Women Like You! – G.L. Lambert
For those who have been made to feel unappreciated or “less than.”
G.L. Lambert says that in the world of relationships there are the sheep, and then there are the wolves. If you are a sheep, then you are just hanging out with the shepherd until the wolf comes along and steals him away.
In this book, you learn how to become ‘the wolf.' The type of woman who every man truly wants in his life, not just his “bit on the side.”
Lambert teaches you to become an empowered woman, one who is in charge of her relationships and her destiny
A side note is that Men Don't Love Women Like You! Is a 2018 Gold Medal E-Lit Awards Winner!
You can get your copy here
|Learn how to take control||Very graphic with lots of F-bombs|
|The text is blunt and cuts right to the point||Text tends to talk in circles over and again|
9. To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man – Gregg Michaelsen
Who says it's impossible to figure guys out?
Just as much as men say you can't understand women; most women admit they don't understand men any better.
In this great book, you will learn how to put yourself in “Man Mode.” When in this mode, you will be able to operate and think on his level just like his buddies do.
This book will show you:
- What influences a man as he grows up
- How he falls in love
- What he considers to be a “Keeper”
- How to increase your “value” as a woman of substance (not just a fling)
- An easy way to deal with baggage (yours and his)
- How to attract the right guy and a test to make sure he is
- How to pick out the idiots that should be dumped to the curb before you invest too much time in them
- All about the “secret” language used in relationships
When you are done with this book, you will have a much better idea of why men do what they do.
Get your copy of To Date a Man, You Must Understand A Man here
|Learn all the tricks of the trade to sort the wheat from the chaff||Lots of crude language used throughout|
|Learn what is the guy's fault and what might be yours and what to do about it||Simplistic in nature and often offensive|
10. Language of Desire – Felicity Keith (NSFW)
All a man wants is sex right…?
Well as a man I can tell you it’s not everything, but it is a major thing. And it never fails to get a mans attention.
So what if you could use sex, to get his attention, not in a slutty way but in a way that will captivate him, and let him know you are serious
This book is about getting what you want, by giving him what he wants.
Language of Desire gives insights like:
- What porn companies do to keep a man's attention, and have him coming back (it isn’t just sexual)
- How to get what you want from him, by giving him what he wants
- What to do to create a loyalty so strong that you're basically stamping your name on his forehead
Written by a regular ‘desperate housewife’, this book is an education that you wouldn’t have had, and won't get anywhere else.
|It's real. Felicity is easy to relate to and understand||Explicit language and themes, which won't suit everyone|
|Done for you things to say and do to get the ball rolling||The audiobook sounds like it was read over the telephone|
The Final Word
I always found it funny that in our culture, we study for years to get a job we will be in for 40 years or so.
But people find it difficult to get advice on their dating lives and be seen with a book on ‘how to meet someone'.
These dating books and guides are like your learner plates or trainee badge. Everyone goes through a stage like this… we just don't all let the people we know, know about it.
Thanks for reading my top 10 picks of the best dating books and guides. I hope you have found something useful. If you have a question, contact me here.