9 Experts Answer FAQ on How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

EVEN THOUGH YOU may feel down for the count…

It doesn't mean you're out of the fight. Not if you play your cards right

Just because he says he doesn't want to be with you right now doesn't mean he won't change his mind in the near future

So what should you do..?

To help, I've asked some Ex-Back experts the more commonly asked questions around how to get your ex-boyfriend back

There is well over 30 years experience in getting couples back together in this list, so if anyone can help it's these experts…

 

“What's The Best Way to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Through Text?”

– Michael Fiore

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Michael Fiore is THE expert when it comes to using text messages to reconnect with your ex…

With many years experience as well as a few published books on the subject

He likes text messages in a break-up situation because even if your Ex is screening your calls and blocking you on social media, the text will still pop up on his phone.

And in this way, he will see it before he gets the chance to delete it

When asked his number one tip for using your phone to get your Ex-Boyfriend back he said:

Michaels Tip:

“Sending the wrong type of message can instantly kill your chances of getting your Ex back”

To that, he adds…

“In fact sending the wrong message can push him into the arms of another woman”

Why is it so important that you think through what you send?

According to Michael, there are three reasons…

  1. Guys typically move on faster than women
    • This is important because he will try to fix the relationship with another relationship.. and not think about what went wrong
  2. Guys make their minds up fast, but can be persuaded to change their mind
    • This means he will try to resist any advances you make towards him
  3. When your Ex sees your name appear on his phone, he will get anxious…
    • It doesn't matter how ‘nice' your text messages are, he won't hear what you're saying because of this anxiety and even fear

So far it's been bad news, but there is good news

There are ways through text that you can bypass his defenses and get straight through to his heart

And when you create the perfect message, he will have to respond. When you trigger that inner part of him that cannot resist your message

You see most women trying to get their Ex back will put everything into one message. But Mike has broken down the process into a series of messages

All with different purposes…

Like climbing stairs, you take his hand and guide him one step at a time

If you want to know more about the steps of using text to get your Ex back, then Mike has a book called ‘Text Your Ex Back'.

It includes done-for-you text messages you can send him to open up the lines of communication and get him thinking about you again

He's also prepared a short video on his website where he divulges why a break up can actually be a good thing for your relationship.

I encourage anyone wanting to get their Ex back through text message, to take the next 5 minutes and watch

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Want You Back?”

– James Bauer

James is a dating and relationship coach, working specifically with women for the last 11 years

He believes that trying to convince and reason with your Ex is not going to get him back

James' tip about getting your Ex to want you back is quite blunt..

James' Tip:

“Trigger his feelings”

He says emotions run the show and you will have a much better chance by tapping into them instead

“Emotion. It’s your best shot at winning him back”

So how do you use his emotions to get him back?

“1. Build a private line of communication”

James explains that in most situations, everyone knows that you have broken up. So when there are other people around, that's how he will see your relationship

But when there's no one else and it's only the two of you, those social rules don't apply. This will help him really open up to you

And at the start of the process, this is all you need to do. Simply keep in touch every so often, in a way or place where only the two of you will see or hear your conversation

James also revealed a follow-up step…

“2. Validate his frustrations with other people and things”

“We will do anything for someone who validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure”

“So when the frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is”

James says that when your Ex-Boyfriend is looking for someone to ‘have his back', then be there for him. If he's frustrated at work or with his favorite sports team, take his side on the matter and let him know he's got a confidante

“Give him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He’ll love you for it even if he’s not ready to admit it…”

These two tips are the tip of the iceberg. James has a book written specifically around getting women back with their Ex-Boyfriends. To find out more, he has created a video on the real reason why men pull away and lose interest

You can also find his ‘Relationship Rewrite Method' program for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex Back… Fast?”

– Gregg Michaelsen

Gregg is a popular, Boston based dating coach with a focus on helping women understand men

His book ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ is one of the highest rated on the topic of relationship repair

And his best tip for getting your ex back fast is simple…

Gregg's Tip:

You need to spark your Ex's competitive side…

Gregg says that all men have them, and they are the key to helping you get back together with your Ex

So it's time to stop eating ice cream on the couch and start dating other men

Why does this work? Gregg put's it like this

“Guys don't like to lose their stuff… and in a primal way he thinks of you as ‘his stuff'”

Gregg also says to complete the picture you need to let him know you are moving on. Send him messages about getting your stuff back

Or ask him where you stayed when you went on holidays a few years ago…when you were together

Gregg says that by doing this, you are telling him that you are ready to move on, and it's not just him

“It tells him that you're not just there, waiting by your phone for him to call or text and tell you how things are going to be…”

Direct vs Indirect tip:

Another tip from Gregg is that going direct (sending text messages about how much you miss him etc.) doesn't work, and this delicate situation means you need to act ‘indirectly'

Like the text messages above imply that you are moving on…

Although being direct may seem faster, it will give your Ex-Boyfriend the impression that you are needy. Neediness and clingyness are kryptonite for a man. And will make him run the other way

Greggs book entitled ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ has plenty more tips and advice and is available digitally or in audiobook format.

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Broke Up With You?”

– Brad Browning

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Is there really anything you can do when your Ex-Boyfriend dumped you, but you want him back?

The truth is that there are ways to get back into his heart and remind him of what you once had…

Brad Browning, author of the Ex Factor Guide and self-confessed ‘relationship geek' says that you need to take it in stages.

His tip is:

“Firstly let him know that you are OK with the breakup, even if you're not.”

This takes the pressure off of him, which is why he might have wanted out of the relationship in the first place

Then Brad advises planting the seed of you dating other people

“By saying this, you’re sub-communicating to him that you’re actually wanted by other guys.”

This is very attractive to men and will make him feel like he has lost something. You can see Brad and his book/system for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here, or read a more detailed review here.

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When You Broke Up With Him?”

– Kate Robinson

Kate Robinson is a relationship expert who has been through it all herself…

The break up she didn't want and then getting her Ex-Boyfriend back (through trial and error)

So when she gives advice it isn't only informed by psychological studies and research, but also her own life and experiences…

Her first tip for getting your Ex back, when you broke up with him is…

“First, you need to take full control of your emotions… it will boost your attractiveness level sky-high”

Kate says he will notice when you are more centered, relaxed and confident. And he will listen to what you have to say with his heart, not his mind

So you can let him know that breaking up with him was a mistake and tell him why…

And it will make you more convincing when he feels that you're talking to him from a place of control

Kate's second tip is:

“To know how men work. You need to know exactly what his wants and needs are if you want to bypass his rational defences that are denying his love for you”

To get the low down on how to do this get a copy of Kate's program ‘Ex Back Goddess

It includes a play-by-play guide to getting your Ex-Boyfriend back

Kate has even created a video about the do's and don'ts of how to get him back when the relationship between you is rocky and even a little awkward

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has Moved On?”

– Elizabeth Daniels

Elizabeth Daniels has over 12 years experience teaching the law of attraction around the topics of relationships

During that time, she has put everything she knows into a book for people who want to attract a specific person, no matter the status of your relationship with them right now…

So she's the perfect expert for this question

Her big tip is:

“to focus on the positive…”

Elizabeth says that women going through a break up will be thinking along the lines of…

“The ‘I'm not good enough,' ‘I'm too old,' ‘or ‘I'm too ugly'… These are the negative stories keeping you from having the love life you want”

She went on to say that…

“When you start to change your thoughts, you change your vibraion and begin to attract love to you”

So how do you do it?

You need to start rewriting these negative thoughts you have circling around in your head with positive ones

And how you do that is by starting to tell yourself what you want and who you want to be

She has shared some of her thought changing statements, that you can use to replace what you're telling yourself now…

  • “I love myself totally”
  • “Romance is something I find everywhere I go”
  • “I enjoy being loved and treasured by my amazing, kind and generous partner”

You can say these statements in the shower, the car or even to yourself next time you notice you're having negative thoughts

And if you want to find out more about how Elizabeth Daniels can help you win back your ex after he has moved on, check out her book:

Manifesting Love: How to Use the Law of Attraction to Attract a Specific Person, Get Your Ex Back, and Have the Relationship of Your Dreams here

It comes recommended with many 5 star reviews

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Sleep With You?”

– Felicity KeithFelicity Keith - How to get your boyfriend back to sleep with you

Over her time as a relationship coach, Felicity has helped over 100,000 women get their ‘so-so' love lives to Ah-Maze-Ing

Her focus on the more intimate side of relationships means that whatever is going on, she's not afraid to talk about it

And she has some great advice on the topic of getting your Ex Boyfriend to sleep with you

Her advice is…

“His declining desire level is about how he see's himself through your eyes… It's not about how you look”

So the first thing that she says to do to get your ex to sleep with you is…

“Tell him that you appreciate him…”

But not in those exact words… Instead, let him know that something he does or did is important to you

This indirectly communicates with the part of love that a man thinks is actually love. It's love on his level

And when he feels loved and appreciated. He wants to do nice things for the people who appreciate him… You get the idea

Another tip she gives is…

“When he compliments you, don't tear yourself down about it…”

If he says “I really like you in those jeans” don't tell him that you think they make your bum look big…

“When you do this, your actually putting him down and telling him he is wrong”

And this will directly impact his desire for you, and in-turn your chances with him…

Felicity has more insights into the male psyche around sex, love, and relationships in her program ‘Language of Desire' which is aimed at debunking all the myths around men and sex…

As well as taking you by the hand and showing you how to get what you want, by giving him what he wants

The good news is that it works even if your relationship with your Ex is a little rocky

There are plenty of bonuses and the audiobook included (if you click this link)

Felicity has also prepared a short and personal video (NSFW) into how she overcame intimacy problems in her relationship

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Miss You?”

– Michael Webb

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Michael has been around the dating and relationship industry for years. He's been featured in a few magazines, newspapers and even the Oprah show

Michael says that there are many mistakes women make when they are trying to get their Ex's back. Which push men away and makes them look elsewhere

His tips are:

“Don't share your feelings with him too early”

Men don't fall back in love with women that they think are needy or clingy. But women sometimes want to overly share when he's not ready for it yet.

“Don't try to push it too far too soon”

Men need time to adjust. Women can think that they need to settle down before a certain age, but men don't think that way.

He isn't on the same ‘schedule' as you so don't ask him to be.

“Women can be too available”

It's important that you are still somewhat of a challenge, and there is a price to being with you. Men respect that.

“Be yourself”

This one speaks for itself. And lastly…

“Women typically try appealing to his sexual side too much”

If you want a long-term relationship, you need a man who admires and respects you. Let him see that side of you, rather than the one night side

Thanks, Michael. To see more of his advice, he has released a book that is dedicated to women who want their men back. You can find it here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has A Girlfriend?”

– Randy Skilton

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Unfortunately, if he has moved on and happy then it can be too late

But because you have a special insight into his life, you need to leverage that to grow and nurture the relationship between the two of you

My tip is:

“Build up his confidence and let him know that he is a great guy”

If he feels confident in himself, and the new relationship isn't going well, he will be more likely to want something better and do something about it

And when you are the one building his confidence up, you become the next best

Then it's only natural that he explores you as an option…

Running this website (and other relationship websites) I have reviewed many different Ex-Back books and programs.

And if you're asking me, what I recommend as the best way to rekindle a relationship, even when a third party is involved… it's in Michael Fiore's Text the Romance Back

This easy-to-read book (with accompanying audio) will get you talking in a language that he cannot resist, and make him feel like a million bucks

The best bit is that there are done-for-you messages that you can send within 10 minutes of getting your hands on the book

And because you can send all these messages through text, you can bring him from wherever he is in the world to your door

And whatever stage your relationship is in…

In this book/program you will learn:

  • How to talk to him in a way that he will respond positively to
  • When it's a good time to escalate texts
  • What to do if he doesn't reply…
  • Why men get fed up in their relationships
  • Where many women make mistakes in talking to men and how to easily avoid those pitfalls

You can get your copy of Text the Romance Back here or see a more detailed review here

 

In Summary…

Firstly, I'd like to say a big thanks to the experts who have given their advice

There is some great advice here on how to get your Ex-Boyfriend back. So I encourage you to take it, think it through and use it

And if you need more information then get the book or program that suits you. They can make the difference

Either which way you go, I wish you the best of luck in your situation

If you have any questions or comments, you can contact me here

Resources:

  • https://www.whoholdsthecardsnow.com/blog/
  • http://michaelcfiore.com/looks-arent-blame-lack-interest/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/women/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-to-chase-you-down-and-give-your-relationship-a-second-chance/
  • AskFelicityKeith.com
  • https://relationshiprewritemethod.com/convincing-vs-trigger-feelings.php
  • https://gettinghimback.com/

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