THINGS HAVE REALLY BEEN great between you and your man. But now, something is off.
There is a feeling …the palpable shift that you can’t quite put your finger on, and it just hangs in the air, sending waves of panic throughout your being.
Sometimes you wonder whether you are imagining things; that your fears and insecurities are probably acting up.
But wait……… Why, all of a sudden, is he so busy with everything and everyone else apart from you?
And is this ‘normal man behavior' that should be waited out like a surfer waiting out small waves… or something more serious?
Business as UN-usual
Unfortunately, many women have gone through the most challenging situation in relationships. When they thought that things were going really great until suddenly they weren’t. If something seems off, that’s an issue.
You shouldn’t be kept awake at night wondering if your man still loves you.
Men show signs when they are falling out of love with a woman, and it is important to keep a keen eye on what is happening to avoid serious heartbreak. Keep reading to find out if your guy is still invested in your relationship.
The Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You
1. He spends more time away
Any relationship is an investment of time, emotions and energy on multiple levels.
If your man is noticeably spending less time at home, watch out and find out what is going on with him. In a study, 55% of men said that they spent more time away from home when they were falling out of love with their women
Remember that feeling of not being able to get enough of each other? If you feel that the bliss is slowly yielding to a sense that your man suddenly needs a lot of ‘space’, you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
2. He avoids contact with you
The contact you have with your man during the day helps the two of you to develop a general awareness of each other. A study showed that 29% of men said that they avoided contact with their women when they felt that their emotional connection was waning.
You do all the communicating
Earlier on, it was all about you. He called you, he texted you and showed up in your office whenever time allowed. Now, he is always busy, and he has no time to talk. It is you who is reaching out most of the time. This could be a sign that he is falling out of love.
No calls; only texts(and short ones at that)
Earlier on, your man called you frequently ‘just to hear your voice’. Now he cannot be bothered to call you, and he has resulted to texts.
A man who loves you will phone you, talk to you and actually engage on the phone for some time. If he has all of a sudden resulted to brief, impersonal texts, something is definitely amiss.
He spends time with you on his phone
Whereas he hardly has any time to communicate with you when you are apart, your man will spend his time on his phone in your company. This could be a way of distracting himself from spending real time with you, which only indicates that he is losing interest in you.
Bottom line, if communicating with your man no longer feels easy and effortless, and has started to feel like a struggle, he could be falling out of love with you.
3. He picks fights
This is a common thing that men do when they are falling out of love with a girl or walking towards breaking up with her.
It is his way of trying to get out of a relationship without having to be the bad guy who hurt you. The strategy is to drive you crazy so that you break up with him. He will constantly turn every little thing into an argument, pick on you and give you a hard time about everything.
He will make offensive jokes, ignore you or even get downright contemptuous. Indeed you will notice that he may intentionally start doing the things that you hate. The idea is to push you away by constantly getting you irritated.
If you are suddenly walking on eggshells around your man, this could be the clearest indication that he is falling out of love.
4. He stops noticing you
There will be radical shifts in the attention that he once gave you; physically, emotionally, or both.
He has lost all interest
If your man is falling out of love with you, he will stop caring what you look like.
He will not notice or even care if you changed something. Like giving your hair a new color, buy a new dress or amp your work out plan. Besides, he might stop doing nice things for you or even paying you compliments.
He stops asking questions
When you love someone, you are always interested in their wellbeing. When your guy stops asking what you are doing, whether a headache is gone, how your ailing mum is fairing………it is a sign he is falling out of love.
He stops responding to your bid for connection
Remember how you used to connect with your man throughout the day through sexting, silly jokes, a little touch, and a particular look? These attempts to connect will disappear.
Gottman’s Research found that couples that were in love responded positively to each other’s ‘bids for connection’ 86% of the time. If your guy is regularly deflecting or ignoring your efforts to connect with him, this is most likely a sign that he is falling out of love with you.
5. He doesn’t discuss the future anymore
When your guy suddenly avoids discussing any future related plans with you, it is a sign that he does not see you in his future.
If he cannot sit through a conversation about his intentions and goals, it could mean that he does not envision the same kind of future that you do. Is he planning a trip for the summer and there is no hint that he wants you to come along? There is definitely a problem.
6. Your sex life has changed
The intimacy that you once experienced in your relationship has gone out of the window. You no longer hold hands, kiss or even hug. You struggle to remember the last time you had good ‘connected' sex. He is either very ‘tired’ at the end of the day or falls asleep faster than a baby.
Sex is a barometer for your emotional intimacy. If your guy is not interested in having sex with you, then he is probably not interested in you anymore.
It is only sex
On the flip side, your man could only be showing interest in sex and nothing more.
When you are having sex with him, you do not feel that he is physically attracted to you or even emotionally attached to you. It feels as if sex is just an act and it is more about satisfying himself. Fact is, he has fallen out of love with you but he is still having sex with you to satisfy his urge. Sickening, but true.
The Choice You Need To Make
If you are reading this article, then I assume that you want to make your relationship work. So you need to determine…
- Is this about you & your relationship?
- Or has he gone distant about something else, which is simply effecting your relationship?
If it's the latter, then you can typically wait it out.
Every intimate relationship goes through slumps and his detachment might not necessarily indicate that your relationship is unraveling.
If this is the case, you will want to subtly let him know that you are there if he needs you. Eventually, he will come back to you so it's important that you do not pressure him.
Pressuring him can push him further away. In his mind, he needs the distance to deal with the issue. When he works it out for himself he will be finished.
What to do if you think it's about you & your relationship
If all signs indicate that your man is falling out of love, it's time to try and have an honest conversation. Indulging in an uncomfortable conversation with him is way better than carrying on an unfulfilling relationship.
You may even find that your man’s indifference is due to a situation that can be remedied. With openness and enough motivation, you could get his feelings back in line and save your relationship.
Unfortunately, when you do try to bring it up he's probably not going to want to talk about it. Men in these situations seem to feel like ‘she should just know if she knows me.'
So if you are genuinely not sure what is behind his behavior how do you find out?
There is a short video you watch that reveals the inner working of the male mind. Including the #1 most important thing in his life (his obsession), and what he needs from you in a relationship.
Is it the end?
If, however, you find that he is falling out of love and there is absolutely no value in the relationship, it is time for you to move on. And you know what, do it with your head held high.
The fact that he has fallen out of love with you does not mean that you are not a great catch or a spectacular person. Move on and find someone worth your time.
Every minute you waste trying to make him fall back in love again is the time you could be spending on things. Like making yourself happy or getting out there meeting a good man who will love and treasure you.
Thanks for reading this guide on the signs he is falling out of love with you. Best of luck in your situation. You can contact me here.