9 Experts Answer FAQ on How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

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EVEN THOUGH YOU may feel down for the count…

It doesn't mean you're out of the fight. Not if you play your cards right

Just because he says he doesn't want to be with you right now doesn't mean he won't change his mind in the near future

So what should you do..?

To help, I've asked some Ex-Back experts the more commonly asked questions around how to get your ex-boyfriend back

There is well over 30 years experience in getting couples back together in this list, so if anyone can help it's these experts…

 

“What's The Best Way to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Through Text?”

– Michael Fiore

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Michael Fiore is THE expert when it comes to using text messages to reconnect with your ex…

With many years experience as well as a few published books on the subject

He likes text messages in a break-up situation because even if your Ex is screening your calls and blocking you on social media, the text will still pop up on his phone.

And in this way, he will see it before he gets the chance to delete it

When asked his number one tip for using your phone to get your Ex-Boyfriend back he said:

Michaels Tip:

“Sending the wrong type of message can instantly kill your chances of getting your Ex back”

To that, he adds…

“In fact sending the wrong message can push him into the arms of another woman”

Why is it so important that you think through what you send?

According to Michael, there are three reasons…

  1. Guys typically move on faster than women
    • This is important because he will try to fix the relationship with another relationship.. and not think about what went wrong
  2. Guys make their minds up fast, but can be persuaded to change their mind
    • This means he will try to resist any advances you make towards him
  3. When your Ex sees your name appear on his phone, he will get anxious…
    • It doesn't matter how ‘nice' your text messages are, he won't hear what you're saying because of this anxiety and even fear

So far it's been bad news, but there is good news

There are ways through text that you can bypass his defenses and get straight through to his heart

And when you create the perfect message, he will have to respond. When you trigger that inner part of him that cannot resist your message

You see most women trying to get their Ex back will put everything into one message. But Mike has broken down the process into a series of messages

All with different purposes…

Like climbing stairs, you take his hand and guide him one step at a time

If you want to know more about the steps of using text to get your Ex back, then Mike has a book called ‘Text Your Ex Back'.

It includes done-for-you text messages you can send him to open up the lines of communication and get him thinking about you again

He's also prepared a short video on his website where he divulges why a break up can actually be a good thing for your relationship.

I encourage anyone wanting to get their Ex back through text message, to take the next 5 minutes and watch

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Want You Back?”

– James Bauer

James is a dating and relationship coach, working specifically with women for the last 11 years

He believes that trying to convince and reason with your Ex is not going to get him back

James' tip about getting your Ex to want you back is quite blunt..

James' Tip:

“Trigger his feelings”

He says emotions run the show and you will have a much better chance by tapping into them instead

“Emotion. It’s your best shot at winning him back”

So how do you use his emotions to get him back?

“1. Build a private line of communication”

James explains that in most situations, everyone knows that you have broken up. So when there are other people around, that's how he will see your relationship

But when there's no one else and it's only the two of you, those social rules don't apply. This will help him really open up to you

And at the start of the process, this is all you need to do. Simply keep in touch every so often, in a way or place where only the two of you will see or hear your conversation

James also revealed a follow-up step…

“2. Validate his frustrations with other people and things”

“We will do anything for someone who validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure”

“So when the frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is”

James says that when your Ex-Boyfriend is looking for someone to ‘have his back', then be there for him. If he's frustrated at work or with his favorite sports team, take his side on the matter and let him know he's got a confidante

“Give him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He’ll love you for it even if he’s not ready to admit it…”

These two tips are the tip of the iceberg. James has a book written specifically around getting women back with their Ex-Boyfriends. To find out more, he has created a video on the real reason why men pull away and lose interest

You can also find his ‘Relationship Rewrite Method' program for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex Back… Fast?”

– Gregg Michaelsen

Gregg is a popular, Boston based dating coach with a focus on helping women understand men

His book ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ is one of the highest rated on the topic of relationship repair

And his best tip for getting your ex back fast is simple…

Gregg's Tip:

You need to spark your Ex's competitive side…

Gregg says that all men have them, and they are the key to helping you get back together with your Ex

So it's time to stop eating ice cream on the couch and start dating other men

Why does this work? Gregg put's it like this

“Guys don't like to lose their stuff… and in a primal way he thinks of you as ‘his stuff'”

Gregg also says to complete the picture you need to let him know you are moving on. Send him messages about getting your stuff back

Or ask him where you stayed when you went on holidays a few years ago…when you were together

Gregg says that by doing this, you are telling him that you are ready to move on, and it's not just him

“It tells him that you're not just there, waiting by your phone for him to call or text and tell you how things are going to be…”

Direct vs Indirect tip:

Another tip from Gregg is that going direct (sending text messages about how much you miss him etc.) doesn't work, and this delicate situation means you need to act ‘indirectly'

Like the text messages above imply that you are moving on…

Although being direct may seem faster, it will give your Ex-Boyfriend the impression that you are needy. Neediness and clingyness are kryptonite for a man. And will make him run the other way

Greggs book entitled ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ has plenty more tips and advice and is available digitally or in audiobook format.

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Broke Up With You?”

– Brad Browning

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Is there really anything you can do when your Ex-Boyfriend dumped you, but you want him back?

The truth is that there are ways to get back into his heart and remind him of what you once had…

Brad Browning, author of the Ex Factor Guide and self-confessed ‘relationship geek' says that you need to take it in stages.

His tip is:

“Firstly let him know that you are OK with the breakup, even if you're not.”

This takes the pressure off of him, which is why he might have wanted out of the relationship in the first place

Then Brad advises planting the seed of you dating other people

“By saying this, you’re sub-communicating to him that you’re actually wanted by other guys.”

This is very attractive to men and will make him feel like he has lost something. You can see Brad and his book/system for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here, or read a more detailed review here.

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When You Broke Up With Him?”

– Kate Robinson

Kate Robinson is a relationship expert who has been through it all herself…

The break up she didn't want and then getting her Ex-Boyfriend back (through trial and error)

So when she gives advice it isn't only informed by psychological studies and research, but also her own life and experiences…

Her first tip for getting your Ex back, when you broke up with him is…

“First, you need to take full control of your emotions… it will boost your attractiveness level sky-high”

Kate says he will notice when you are more centered, relaxed and confident. And he will listen to what you have to say with his heart, not his mind

So you can let him know that breaking up with him was a mistake and tell him why…

And it will make you more convincing when he feels that you're talking to him from a place of control

Kate's second tip is:

“To know how men work. You need to know exactly what his wants and needs are if you want to bypass his rational defences that are denying his love for you”

To get the low down on how to do this get a copy of Kate's program ‘Ex Back Goddess

It includes a play-by-play guide to getting your Ex-Boyfriend back

Kate has even created a video about the do's and don'ts of how to get him back when the relationship between you is rocky and even a little awkward

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has Moved On?”

– Elizabeth Daniels

Elizabeth Daniels has over 12 years experience teaching the law of attraction around the topics of relationships

During that time, she has put everything she knows into a book for people who want to attract a specific person, no matter the status of your relationship with them right now…

So she's the perfect expert for this question

Her big tip is:

“to focus on the positive…”

Elizabeth says that women going through a break up will be thinking along the lines of…

“The ‘I'm not good enough,' ‘I'm too old,' ‘or ‘I'm too ugly'… These are the negative stories keeping you from having the love life you want”

She went on to say that…

“When you start to change your thoughts, you change your vibraion and begin to attract love to you”

So how do you do it?

You need to start rewriting these negative thoughts you have circling around in your head with positive ones

And how you do that is by starting to tell yourself what you want and who you want to be

She has shared some of her thought changing statements, that you can use to replace what you're telling yourself now…

  • “I love myself totally”
  • “Romance is something I find everywhere I go”
  • “I enjoy being loved and treasured by my amazing, kind and generous partner”

You can say these statements in the shower, the car or even to yourself next time you notice you're having negative thoughts

And if you want to find out more about how Elizabeth Daniels can help you win back your ex after he has moved on, check out her book:

Manifesting Love: How to Use the Law of Attraction to Attract a Specific Person, Get Your Ex Back, and Have the Relationship of Your Dreams here

It comes recommended with many 5 star reviews

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Sleep With You?”

– Felicity KeithFelicity Keith - How to get your boyfriend back to sleep with you

Over her time as a relationship coach, Felicity has helped over 100,000 women get their ‘so-so' love lives to Ah-Maze-Ing

Her focus on the more intimate side of relationships means that whatever is going on, she's not afraid to talk about it

And she has some great advice on the topic of getting your Ex Boyfriend to sleep with you

Her advice is…

“His declining desire level is about how he see's himself through your eyes… It's not about how you look”

So the first thing that she says to do to get your ex to sleep with you is…

“Tell him that you appreciate him…”

But not in those exact words… Instead, let him know that something he does or did is important to you

This indirectly communicates with the part of love that a man thinks is actually love. It's love on his level

And when he feels loved and appreciated. He wants to do nice things for the people who appreciate him… You get the idea

Another tip she gives is…

“When he compliments you, don't tear yourself down about it…”

If he says “I really like you in those jeans” don't tell him that you think they make your bum look big…

“When you do this, your actually putting him down and telling him he is wrong”

And this will directly impact his desire for you, and in-turn your chances with him…

Felicity has more insights into the male psyche around sex, love, and relationships in her program ‘Language of Desire' which is aimed at debunking all the myths around men and sex…

As well as taking you by the hand and showing you how to get what you want, by giving him what he wants

The good news is that it works even if your relationship with your Ex is a little rocky

There are plenty of bonuses and the audiobook included (if you click this link)

Felicity has also prepared a short and personal video (NSFW) into how she overcame intimacy problems in her relationship

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Miss You?”

– Michael Webb

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Michael has been around the dating and relationship industry for years. He's been featured in a few magazines, newspapers and even the Oprah show

Michael says that there are many mistakes women make when they are trying to get their Ex's back. Which push men away and makes them look elsewhere

His tips are:

“Don't share your feelings with him too early”

Men don't fall back in love with women that they think are needy or clingy. But women sometimes want to overly share when he's not ready for it yet.

“Don't try to push it too far too soon”

Men need time to adjust. Women can think that they need to settle down before a certain age, but men don't think that way.

He isn't on the same ‘schedule' as you so don't ask him to be.

“Women can be too available”

It's important that you are still somewhat of a challenge, and there is a price to being with you. Men respect that.

“Be yourself”

This one speaks for itself. And lastly…

“Women typically try appealing to his sexual side too much”

If you want a long-term relationship, you need a man who admires and respects you. Let him see that side of you, rather than the one night side

Thanks, Michael. To see more of his advice, he has released a book that is dedicated to women who want their men back. You can find it here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has A Girlfriend?”

– Randy Skilton

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Unfortunately, if he has moved on and happy then it can be too late

But because you have a special insight into his life, you need to leverage that to grow and nurture the relationship between the two of you

My tip is:

“Build up his confidence and let him know that he is a great guy”

If he feels confident in himself, and the new relationship isn't going well, he will be more likely to want something better and do something about it

And when you are the one building his confidence up, you become the next best

Then it's only natural that he explores you as an option…

Running this website (and other relationship websites) I have reviewed many different Ex-Back books and programs.

And if you're asking me, what I recommend as the best way to rekindle a relationship, even when a third party is involved… it's in Michael Fiore's Text the Romance Back

This easy-to-read book (with accompanying audio) will get you talking in a language that he cannot resist, and make him feel like a million bucks

The best bit is that there are done-for-you messages that you can send within 10 minutes of getting your hands on the book

And because you can send all these messages through text, you can bring him from wherever he is in the world to your door

And whatever stage your relationship is in…

In this book/program you will learn:

  • How to talk to him in a way that he will respond positively to
  • When it's a good time to escalate texts
  • What to do if he doesn't reply…
  • Why men get fed up in their relationships
  • Where many women make mistakes in talking to men and how to easily avoid those pitfalls

You can get your copy of Text the Romance Back here or see a more detailed review here

 

In Summary…

Firstly, I'd like to say a big thanks to the experts who have given their advice

There is some great advice here on how to get your Ex-Boyfriend back. So I encourage you to take it, think it through and use it

And if you need more information then get the book or program that suits you. They can make the difference

Either which way you go, I wish you the best of luck in your situation

If you have any questions or comments, you can contact me here

Resources:

  • https://www.whoholdsthecardsnow.com/blog/
  • http://michaelcfiore.com/looks-arent-blame-lack-interest/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/women/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-to-chase-you-down-and-give-your-relationship-a-second-chance/
  • AskFelicityKeith.com
  • https://relationshiprewritemethod.com/convincing-vs-trigger-feelings.php
  • https://gettinghimback.com/

Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You

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THINGS HAVE REALLY BEEN great between you and your man. But now, something is off.

There is a feeling …the palpable shift that you can’t quite put your finger on, and it just hangs in the air, sending waves of panic throughout your being.

Sometimes you wonder whether you are imagining things; that your fears and insecurities are probably acting up.

But wait……… Why, all of a sudden, is he so busy with everything and everyone else apart from you?

And is this ‘normal man behavior' that should be waited out like a surfer waiting out small waves… or something more serious?

Business as UN-usual

Unfortunately, many women have gone through the most challenging situation in relationships. When they thought that things were going really great until suddenly they weren’t. If something seems off, that’s an issue.

You shouldn’t be kept awake at night wondering if your man still loves you.

Men show signs when they are falling out of love with a woman, and it is important to keep a keen eye on what is happening to avoid serious heartbreak. Keep reading to find out if your guy is still invested in your relationship.

The Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You

1. He spends more time away

Any relationship is an investment of time, emotions and energy on multiple levels.

If your man is noticeably spending less time at home, watch out and find out what is going on with him. In a study, 55% of men said that they spent more time away from home when they were falling out of love with their women

Remember that feeling of not being able to get enough of each other? If you feel that the bliss is slowly yielding to a sense that your man suddenly needs a lot of ‘space’, you need to wake up and smell the coffee.

2. He avoids contact with you

The contact you have with your man during the day helps the two of you to develop a general awareness of each other. A study showed that 29% of men said that they avoided contact with their women when they felt that their emotional connection was waning.

You do all the communicating

Earlier on, it was all about you. He called you, he texted you and showed up in your office whenever time allowed. Now, he is always busy, and he has no time to talk. It is you who is reaching out most of the time. This could be a sign that he is falling out of love.

No calls; only texts(and short ones at that)

Earlier on, your man called you frequently ‘just to hear your voice’. Now he cannot be bothered to call you, and he has resulted to texts.

A man who loves you will phone you, talk to you and actually engage on the phone for some time. If he has all of a sudden resulted to brief, impersonal texts, something is definitely amiss.

He spends time with you on his phone

Whereas he hardly has any time to communicate with you when you are apart, your man will spend his time on his phone in your company. This could be a way of distracting himself from spending real time with you, which only indicates that he is losing interest in you.

Bottom line, if communicating with your man no longer feels easy and effortless, and has started to feel like a struggle, he could be falling out of love with you.

3. He picks fights

This is a common thing that men do when they are falling out of love with a girl or walking towards breaking up with her.

It is his way of trying to get out of a relationship without having to be the bad guy who hurt you. The strategy is to drive you crazy so that you break up with him. He will constantly turn every little thing into an argument, pick on you and give you a hard time about everything.

He will make offensive jokes, ignore you or even get downright contemptuous. Indeed you will notice that he may intentionally start doing the things that you hate. The idea is to push you away by constantly getting you irritated.

If you are suddenly walking on eggshells around your man, this could be the clearest indication that he is falling out of love.

4. He stops noticing you

There will be radical shifts in the attention that he once gave you; physically, emotionally, or both.

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Does time spent together feel like it's more business than pleasure?

He has lost all interest

If your man is falling out of love with you, he will stop caring what you look like.

He will not notice or even care if you changed something. Like giving your hair a new color, buy a new dress or amp your work out plan. Besides, he might stop doing nice things for you or even paying you compliments.

He stops asking questions

When you love someone, you are always interested in their wellbeing. When your guy stops asking what you are doing, whether a headache is gone, how your ailing mum is fairing………it is a sign he is falling out of love.

He stops responding to your bid for connection

Remember how you used to connect with your man throughout the day through sexting, silly jokes, a little touch, and a particular look? These attempts to connect will disappear.

Gottman’s Research found that couples that were in love responded positively to each other’s ‘bids for connection’ 86% of the time. If your guy is regularly deflecting or ignoring your efforts to connect with him, this is most likely a sign that he is falling out of love with you.

5. He doesn’t discuss the future anymore

When your guy suddenly avoids discussing any future related plans with you, it is a sign that he does not see you in his future.

If he cannot sit through a conversation about his intentions and goals, it could mean that he does not envision the same kind of future that you do. Is he planning a trip for the summer and there is no hint that he wants you to come along? There is definitely a problem.

6. Your sex life has changed

The intimacy that you once experienced in your relationship has gone out of the window. You no longer hold hands, kiss or even hug. You struggle to remember the last time you had good ‘connected' sex. He is either very ‘tired’ at the end of the day or falls asleep faster than a baby.

Sex is a barometer for your emotional intimacy. If your guy is not interested in having sex with you, then he is probably not interested in you anymore.

It is only sex

On the flip side, your man could only be showing interest in sex and nothing more.

When you are having sex with him, you do not feel that he is physically attracted to you or even emotionally attached to you. It feels as if sex is just an act and it is more about satisfying himself. Fact is, he has fallen out of love with you but he is still having sex with you to satisfy his urge. Sickening, but true.

The Choice You Need To Make

If you are reading this article, then I assume that you want to make your relationship work. So you need to determine…

  • Is this about you & your relationship?
  • Or has he gone distant about something else, which is simply effecting your relationship?

If it's the latter, then you can typically wait it out.

Every intimate relationship goes through slumps and his detachment might not necessarily indicate that your relationship is unraveling.

If this is the case, you will want to subtly let him know that you are there if he needs you. Eventually, he will come back to you so it's important that you do not pressure him.

Pressuring him can push him further away. In his mind, he needs the distance to deal with the issue. When he works it out for himself he will be finished.

What to do if you think it's about you & your relationship

If all signs indicate that your man is falling out of love, it's time to try and have an honest conversation. Indulging in an uncomfortable conversation with him is way better than carrying on an unfulfilling relationship.

You may even find that your man’s indifference is due to a situation that can be remedied. With openness and enough motivation, you could get his feelings back in line and save your relationship.

Unfortunately, when you do try to bring it up he's probably not going to want to talk about it. Men in these situations seem to feel like ‘she should just know if she knows me.'

So if you are genuinely not sure what is behind his behavior how do you find out?

There is a short video you watch that reveals the inner working of the male mind. Including the #1 most important thing in his life (his obsession), and what he needs from you in a relationship.

I highly recommend the video.

Is it the end?

If, however, you find that he is falling out of love and there is absolutely no value in the relationship, it is time for you to move on. And you know what, do it with your head held high.

The fact that he has fallen out of love with you does not mean that you are not a great catch or a spectacular person. Move on and find someone worth your time.

Every minute you waste trying to make him fall back in love again is the time you could be spending on things. Like making yourself happy or getting out there meeting a good man who will love and treasure you.

Conclusion

Thanks for reading this guide on the signs he is falling out of love with you. Best of luck in your situation. You can contact me here.