“He Broke Up With Me Will He Come Back?” – What You Need to Do Now

How to Get Your Ex-boyfriend back - Woman hugging boyfriend in public

How to Get Your Ex-boyfriend back - Woman hugging boyfriend in public

HE IS ALL YOU CAN THINK ABOUT, and you just want him back.

But where do you start?

Maybe you have thought about calling and texting him, but what if he doesn't answer your calls or responds to your texts?

The good news

The good news is that you can reconcile with your boyfriend.

But first, you have to pull yourself together. After a breakup, it can feel like the faster you reach out to your boyfriend and convince him that you love him, the sooner you can get things back to how they used to be.

However, this overwhelming sense of urgency can cloud your judgment and cause you to make decisions that might jeopardize your chances of getting him back.

Position yourself for a reconciliation

Your behavior after the breakup holds the key to your chances of getting your boyfriend back.

The post-breakup phase, if not well handled, offers many opportunities for you to make mistakes, which may affect your efforts to save your relationship.

Many women go completely off the deep end and turn into stalkers; obsessively checking their ex-boyfriends’ social media, sending them hundreds of texts and showing up in their homes and office.

This kind of behavior can only at best make the road to reconciliation more challenging, if not impossible.

Displaying your vulnerability by pleading, begging, and bargaining your way back into your ex-boyfriend’s heart is also a No! No!

You would never want him to get back with you because of pity or because you have guilt tripped him into giving you a second chance.

A desperate ex-girlfriend is not attractive to anyone. So, get a handle on yourself and have a plan in place to win back your boyfriend.

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The no-contact rule

It is very tempting to reach out to your ex-boyfriend: but don't. Avoid all contact with him for 4 weeks. Do not no call him, do not write him any texts, do not email him, and certainly, do not like or comment on his social media.

In situations where you must maintain contact, such as being co-parents, talk to him only about essential matters. The no-contact period is crucial because it:

  • Gives you space to calm your emotions so that you can think rationally.
  • Allows you to reflect and determine whether you really want to get back with your ex-boyfriend.
  • Allows you time to work on improving yourself.
  • Gives your ex-boyfriend time to miss you.

Your ex-boyfriend probably expects you to fall apart after the breakup and start pleading with him to take you back. He has probably experienced this reaction from his previous breakups.

The no- contact will catch him by surprise and he will wonder whether he has misjudged you, and in turn question the breakup. The no-contact period will work to your maximum advantage.

What if he contacts you first?

If your ex-boyfriend reaches out to you before the 4 weeks are over, do not get too excited. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything – he might be going through a moment of weakness.

Also, do not invest too much in it. You do not need to ignore him, but it is essential that you keep some comfortable distance.

Keep the conversations light and enjoyable and always steer them away from anything too heavy and emotional. Bear in mind that if your relationship didn’t work, it was for a reason, and it won’t work unless something changes and real change takes time.

Whatever you do, do not have sex with him until you have resolved all the issues. Being intimate with your ex-boyfriend will cloud your judgment and distract you from dealing with the real issues that you should be working on.

Why did he break up with you?

You probably have no idea why your boyfriend broke up with you, and you are not alone. Many women are left clueless about why their exes leave.

The reason why your man may not be forthcoming about the reason for calling it quits is that he probably fears your reaction or he may not want to hurt you. Lame excuses like, ‘our relationship is not working anymore’ need to be decoded to determine the real reason.

Experts say that men mainly leave relationships when respect and admiration are no longer available in the relationship.

It is not that he found a girl who is prettier than you; instead, he found interest and appreciation that you once showed him from the new girl. Other reasons why guys leave include:

  • He finds you needy and controlling
  • The trust is gone
  • There is no intimacy and connection

If you hope to build a successful relationship the second time around, you must find out what was missing in your relationship in the first place.

Love yourself

The most important thing you can do while you are taking a break from your ex is improving yourself physically and mentally. To become that irresistible girl, you will need to work on improving three areas of your life:

  • Health: Eat properly, work out and ensure you look your best. Think of updating your wardrobe and probably have a makeover.
  • Wealth: Wealth involves all aspects of success. This could include applying for new jobs studying for new skills.
  • Relationships: Relationships encompass everything from family and friends. Remember the social life you had before you started dating your man; it is time to catch up with family and reconnect with your friends.

You could also take on a new hobby which is a fantastic way of keeping yourself occupied. Investing time and energy on yourself will make you more attractive to your ex-boyfriend than even before you broke up.

Engage social media constructively

Since you have no contact with your ex-boyfriend, social media can help you communicate indirectly with him.

Engage social media to show your ex-boyfriend how great you look, how much you have grown as a person and all the fun activities you have been up to. Take photos that illustrate valuable changes that will make a strong impression on your ex-boyfriend.

DO NOT:

  • Take lots of selfies at home as this will only demonstrate to your boyfriend that you have no life outside of him
  • Post sad quotes and lyrics
  • Post inspirational messages about breakups and loneliness

The texting phase

Texting is the best way to initiate contact with your ex-boyfriend. The first message should be light-hearted, fun and one that will grab his attention. ‘Hey, just heard that they have opened a great new sushi place near you and it reminded me of how much you love hand rolls.’

Sending your ex a text message is a fun and easy way to reconnect with him in a low-pressure environment. Slowly, you and your ex will start having text conversations. All you need to remember is to keep your texts fun and always to end the conversation on a high.

Once you have built enough rapport with your ex-boyfriend, you can introduce phone calls. A text like the one below can be great for introducing phone calls.

‘Can I get your help with something?'

Or

‘Hey just walked out of the most amazing interview. You wouldn't believe who was in there.’

When your ex-boyfriend calls, the same rules apply as with text messages. Keep the call fun, brief and always end it on a high note.

The Dates

The final element to getting your ex back is going out on dates with him. No matter how excited you are, you must keep a cool head. Do not prolong the date. With a smile on your face and sincere warmth in your attitude, find a reason to excuse yourself when you are still having fun.

Do not be afraid to make it clear that you have other people to see and other things to do. Keep a friendly tone through the dates and leave him wondering whether you really want him back or not. His ego will take over, and it will convince him to chase.

Final thoughts

It is possible to get your ex-boyfriend back and create a fantastic, brand new relationship. However, do not get back with him for the wrong reasons and not before you adequately address the real underlying issues. You do not want history to repeat itself.

The breakup phase does not have to be miserable; utilize it properly. Relationships have a way of sucking all the time out of your life.

A breakup should be a time for self-reflection, reinvention and becoming a better version of you- so, take full advantage of it.

Thanks for reading my guide on “He Broke Up With Me Will He Come Back?” You can find more information below, as well as on the mailing list.

9 Experts Answer FAQ on How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

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EVEN THOUGH YOU may feel down for the count…

It doesn't mean you're out of the fight. Not if you play your cards right

Just because he says he doesn't want to be with you right now doesn't mean he won't change his mind in the near future

So what should you do..?

To help, I've asked some Ex-Back experts the more commonly asked questions around how to get your ex-boyfriend back

There is well over 30 years experience in getting couples back together in this list, so if anyone can help it's these experts…

 

“What's The Best Way to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Through Text?”

– Michael Fiore

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Michael Fiore is THE expert when it comes to using text messages to reconnect with your ex…

With many years experience as well as a few published books on the subject

He likes text messages in a break-up situation because even if your Ex is screening your calls and blocking you on social media, the text will still pop up on his phone.

And in this way, he will see it before he gets the chance to delete it

When asked his number one tip for using your phone to get your Ex-Boyfriend back he said:

Michaels Tip:

“Sending the wrong type of message can instantly kill your chances of getting your Ex back”

To that, he adds…

“In fact sending the wrong message can push him into the arms of another woman”

Why is it so important that you think through what you send?

According to Michael, there are three reasons…

  1. Guys typically move on faster than women
    • This is important because he will try to fix the relationship with another relationship.. and not think about what went wrong
  2. Guys make their minds up fast, but can be persuaded to change their mind
    • This means he will try to resist any advances you make towards him
  3. When your Ex sees your name appear on his phone, he will get anxious…
    • It doesn't matter how ‘nice' your text messages are, he won't hear what you're saying because of this anxiety and even fear

So far it's been bad news, but there is good news

There are ways through text that you can bypass his defenses and get straight through to his heart

And when you create the perfect message, he will have to respond. When you trigger that inner part of him that cannot resist your message

You see most women trying to get their Ex back will put everything into one message. But Mike has broken down the process into a series of messages

All with different purposes…

Like climbing stairs, you take his hand and guide him one step at a time

If you want to know more about the steps of using text to get your Ex back, then Mike has a book called ‘Text Your Ex Back'.

It includes done-for-you text messages you can send him to open up the lines of communication and get him thinking about you again

He's also prepared a short video on his website where he divulges why a break up can actually be a good thing for your relationship.

I encourage anyone wanting to get their Ex back through text message, to take the next 5 minutes and watch

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Want You Back?”

– James Bauer

James is a dating and relationship coach, working specifically with women for the last 11 years

He believes that trying to convince and reason with your Ex is not going to get him back

James' tip about getting your Ex to want you back is quite blunt..

James' Tip:

“Trigger his feelings”

He says emotions run the show and you will have a much better chance by tapping into them instead

“Emotion. It’s your best shot at winning him back”

So how do you use his emotions to get him back?

“1. Build a private line of communication”

James explains that in most situations, everyone knows that you have broken up. So when there are other people around, that's how he will see your relationship

But when there's no one else and it's only the two of you, those social rules don't apply. This will help him really open up to you

And at the start of the process, this is all you need to do. Simply keep in touch every so often, in a way or place where only the two of you will see or hear your conversation

James also revealed a follow-up step…

“2. Validate his frustrations with other people and things”

“We will do anything for someone who validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure”

“So when the frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is”

James says that when your Ex-Boyfriend is looking for someone to ‘have his back', then be there for him. If he's frustrated at work or with his favorite sports team, take his side on the matter and let him know he's got a confidante

“Give him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He’ll love you for it even if he’s not ready to admit it…”

These two tips are the tip of the iceberg. James has a book written specifically around getting women back with their Ex-Boyfriends. To find out more, he has created a video on the real reason why men pull away and lose interest

You can also find his ‘Relationship Rewrite Method' program for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex Back… Fast?”

– Gregg Michaelsen

Gregg is a popular, Boston based dating coach with a focus on helping women understand men

His book ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ is one of the highest rated on the topic of relationship repair

And his best tip for getting your ex back fast is simple…

Gregg's Tip:

You need to spark your Ex's competitive side…

Gregg says that all men have them, and they are the key to helping you get back together with your Ex

So it's time to stop eating ice cream on the couch and start dating other men

Why does this work? Gregg put's it like this

“Guys don't like to lose their stuff… and in a primal way he thinks of you as ‘his stuff'”

Gregg also says to complete the picture you need to let him know you are moving on. Send him messages about getting your stuff back

Or ask him where you stayed when you went on holidays a few years ago…when you were together

Gregg says that by doing this, you are telling him that you are ready to move on, and it's not just him

“It tells him that you're not just there, waiting by your phone for him to call or text and tell you how things are going to be…”

Direct vs Indirect tip:

Another tip from Gregg is that going direct (sending text messages about how much you miss him etc.) doesn't work, and this delicate situation means you need to act ‘indirectly'

Like the text messages above imply that you are moving on…

Although being direct may seem faster, it will give your Ex-Boyfriend the impression that you are needy. Neediness and clingyness are kryptonite for a man. And will make him run the other way

Greggs book entitled ‘How to Get Your Ex Back Fast‘ has plenty more tips and advice and is available digitally or in audiobook format.

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Broke Up With You?”

– Brad Browning

How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back - Brad Browning Headshot

Is there really anything you can do when your Ex-Boyfriend dumped you, but you want him back?

The truth is that there are ways to get back into his heart and remind him of what you once had…

Brad Browning, author of the Ex Factor Guide and self-confessed ‘relationship geek' says that you need to take it in stages.

His tip is:

“Firstly let him know that you are OK with the breakup, even if you're not.”

This takes the pressure off of him, which is why he might have wanted out of the relationship in the first place

Then Brad advises planting the seed of you dating other people

“By saying this, you’re sub-communicating to him that you’re actually wanted by other guys.”

This is very attractive to men and will make him feel like he has lost something. You can see Brad and his book/system for getting your Ex-Boyfriend back here, or read a more detailed review here.

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When You Broke Up With Him?”

– Kate Robinson

Kate Robinson is a relationship expert who has been through it all herself…

The break up she didn't want and then getting her Ex-Boyfriend back (through trial and error)

So when she gives advice it isn't only informed by psychological studies and research, but also her own life and experiences…

Her first tip for getting your Ex back, when you broke up with him is…

“First, you need to take full control of your emotions… it will boost your attractiveness level sky-high”

Kate says he will notice when you are more centered, relaxed and confident. And he will listen to what you have to say with his heart, not his mind

So you can let him know that breaking up with him was a mistake and tell him why…

And it will make you more convincing when he feels that you're talking to him from a place of control

Kate's second tip is:

“To know how men work. You need to know exactly what his wants and needs are if you want to bypass his rational defences that are denying his love for you”

To get the low down on how to do this get a copy of Kate's program ‘Ex Back Goddess

It includes a play-by-play guide to getting your Ex-Boyfriend back

Kate has even created a video about the do's and don'ts of how to get him back when the relationship between you is rocky and even a little awkward

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has Moved On?”

– Elizabeth Daniels

Elizabeth Daniels has over 12 years experience teaching the law of attraction around the topics of relationships

During that time, she has put everything she knows into a book for people who want to attract a specific person, no matter the status of your relationship with them right now…

So she's the perfect expert for this question

Her big tip is:

“to focus on the positive…”

Elizabeth says that women going through a break up will be thinking along the lines of…

“The ‘I'm not good enough,' ‘I'm too old,' ‘or ‘I'm too ugly'… These are the negative stories keeping you from having the love life you want”

She went on to say that…

“When you start to change your thoughts, you change your vibraion and begin to attract love to you”

So how do you do it?

You need to start rewriting these negative thoughts you have circling around in your head with positive ones

And how you do that is by starting to tell yourself what you want and who you want to be

She has shared some of her thought changing statements, that you can use to replace what you're telling yourself now…

  • “I love myself totally”
  • “Romance is something I find everywhere I go”
  • “I enjoy being loved and treasured by my amazing, kind and generous partner”

You can say these statements in the shower, the car or even to yourself next time you notice you're having negative thoughts

And if you want to find out more about how Elizabeth Daniels can help you win back your ex after he has moved on, check out her book:

Manifesting Love: How to Use the Law of Attraction to Attract a Specific Person, Get Your Ex Back, and Have the Relationship of Your Dreams here

It comes recommended with many 5 star reviews

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Sleep With You?”

– Felicity KeithFelicity Keith - How to get your boyfriend back to sleep with you

Over her time as a relationship coach, Felicity has helped over 100,000 women get their ‘so-so' love lives to Ah-Maze-Ing

Her focus on the more intimate side of relationships means that whatever is going on, she's not afraid to talk about it

And she has some great advice on the topic of getting your Ex Boyfriend to sleep with you

Her advice is…

“His declining desire level is about how he see's himself through your eyes… It's not about how you look”

So the first thing that she says to do to get your ex to sleep with you is…

“Tell him that you appreciate him…”

But not in those exact words… Instead, let him know that something he does or did is important to you

This indirectly communicates with the part of love that a man thinks is actually love. It's love on his level

And when he feels loved and appreciated. He wants to do nice things for the people who appreciate him… You get the idea

Another tip she gives is…

“When he compliments you, don't tear yourself down about it…”

If he says “I really like you in those jeans” don't tell him that you think they make your bum look big…

“When you do this, your actually putting him down and telling him he is wrong”

And this will directly impact his desire for you, and in-turn your chances with him…

Felicity has more insights into the male psyche around sex, love, and relationships in her program ‘Language of Desire' which is aimed at debunking all the myths around men and sex…

As well as taking you by the hand and showing you how to get what you want, by giving him what he wants

The good news is that it works even if your relationship with your Ex is a little rocky

There are plenty of bonuses and the audiobook included (if you click this link)

Felicity has also prepared a short and personal video (NSFW) into how she overcame intimacy problems in her relationship

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend To Miss You?”

– Michael Webb

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Michael has been around the dating and relationship industry for years. He's been featured in a few magazines, newspapers and even the Oprah show

Michael says that there are many mistakes women make when they are trying to get their Ex's back. Which push men away and makes them look elsewhere

His tips are:

“Don't share your feelings with him too early”

Men don't fall back in love with women that they think are needy or clingy. But women sometimes want to overly share when he's not ready for it yet.

“Don't try to push it too far too soon”

Men need time to adjust. Women can think that they need to settle down before a certain age, but men don't think that way.

He isn't on the same ‘schedule' as you so don't ask him to be.

“Women can be too available”

It's important that you are still somewhat of a challenge, and there is a price to being with you. Men respect that.

“Be yourself”

This one speaks for itself. And lastly…

“Women typically try appealing to his sexual side too much”

If you want a long-term relationship, you need a man who admires and respects you. Let him see that side of you, rather than the one night side

Thanks, Michael. To see more of his advice, he has released a book that is dedicated to women who want their men back. You can find it here

 

“How Do You Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back When He Has A Girlfriend?”

– Randy Skilton

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Unfortunately, if he has moved on and happy then it can be too late

But because you have a special insight into his life, you need to leverage that to grow and nurture the relationship between the two of you

My tip is:

“Build up his confidence and let him know that he is a great guy”

If he feels confident in himself, and the new relationship isn't going well, he will be more likely to want something better and do something about it

And when you are the one building his confidence up, you become the next best

Then it's only natural that he explores you as an option…

Running this website (and other relationship websites) I have reviewed many different Ex-Back books and programs.

And if you're asking me, what I recommend as the best way to rekindle a relationship, even when a third party is involved… it's in Michael Fiore's Text the Romance Back

This easy-to-read book (with accompanying audio) will get you talking in a language that he cannot resist, and make him feel like a million bucks

The best bit is that there are done-for-you messages that you can send within 10 minutes of getting your hands on the book

And because you can send all these messages through text, you can bring him from wherever he is in the world to your door

And whatever stage your relationship is in…

In this book/program you will learn:

  • How to talk to him in a way that he will respond positively to
  • When it's a good time to escalate texts
  • What to do if he doesn't reply…
  • Why men get fed up in their relationships
  • Where many women make mistakes in talking to men and how to easily avoid those pitfalls

You can get your copy of Text the Romance Back here or see a more detailed review here

 

In Summary…

Firstly, I'd like to say a big thanks to the experts who have given their advice

There is some great advice here on how to get your Ex-Boyfriend back. So I encourage you to take it, think it through and use it

And if you need more information then get the book or program that suits you. They can make the difference

Either which way you go, I wish you the best of luck in your situation

If you have any questions or comments, you can contact me here

Resources:

  • https://www.whoholdsthecardsnow.com/blog/
  • http://michaelcfiore.com/looks-arent-blame-lack-interest/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/women/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-to-chase-you-down-and-give-your-relationship-a-second-chance/
  • AskFelicityKeith.com
  • https://relationshiprewritemethod.com/convincing-vs-trigger-feelings.php
  • https://gettinghimback.com/

Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You

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Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You - -man rejecting kiss

THINGS HAVE REALLY BEEN great between you and your man. But now, something is off.

There is a feeling …the palpable shift that you can’t quite put your finger on, and it just hangs in the air, sending waves of panic throughout your being.

Sometimes you wonder whether you are imagining things; that your fears and insecurities are probably acting up.

But wait……… Why, all of a sudden, is he so busy with everything and everyone else apart from you?

And is this ‘normal man behavior' that should be waited out like a surfer waiting out small waves… or something more serious?

Business as UN-usual

Unfortunately, many women have gone through the most challenging situation in relationships. When they thought that things were going really great until suddenly they weren’t. If something seems off, that’s an issue.

You shouldn’t be kept awake at night wondering if your man still loves you.

Men show signs when they are falling out of love with a woman, and it is important to keep a keen eye on what is happening to avoid serious heartbreak. Keep reading to find out if your guy is still invested in your relationship.

The Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You

1. He spends more time away

Any relationship is an investment of time, emotions and energy on multiple levels.

If your man is noticeably spending less time at home, watch out and find out what is going on with him. In a study, 55% of men said that they spent more time away from home when they were falling out of love with their women

Remember that feeling of not being able to get enough of each other? If you feel that the bliss is slowly yielding to a sense that your man suddenly needs a lot of ‘space’, you need to wake up and smell the coffee.

2. He avoids contact with you

The contact you have with your man during the day helps the two of you to develop a general awareness of each other. A study showed that 29% of men said that they avoided contact with their women when they felt that their emotional connection was waning.

You do all the communicating

Earlier on, it was all about you. He called you, he texted you and showed up in your office whenever time allowed. Now, he is always busy, and he has no time to talk. It is you who is reaching out most of the time. This could be a sign that he is falling out of love.

No calls; only texts(and short ones at that)

Earlier on, your man called you frequently ‘just to hear your voice’. Now he cannot be bothered to call you, and he has resulted to texts.

A man who loves you will phone you, talk to you and actually engage on the phone for some time. If he has all of a sudden resulted to brief, impersonal texts, something is definitely amiss.

He spends time with you on his phone

Whereas he hardly has any time to communicate with you when you are apart, your man will spend his time on his phone in your company. This could be a way of distracting himself from spending real time with you, which only indicates that he is losing interest in you.

Bottom line, if communicating with your man no longer feels easy and effortless, and has started to feel like a struggle, he could be falling out of love with you.

3. He picks fights

This is a common thing that men do when they are falling out of love with a girl or walking towards breaking up with her.

It is his way of trying to get out of a relationship without having to be the bad guy who hurt you. The strategy is to drive you crazy so that you break up with him. He will constantly turn every little thing into an argument, pick on you and give you a hard time about everything.

He will make offensive jokes, ignore you or even get downright contemptuous. Indeed you will notice that he may intentionally start doing the things that you hate. The idea is to push you away by constantly getting you irritated.

If you are suddenly walking on eggshells around your man, this could be the clearest indication that he is falling out of love.

4. He stops noticing you

There will be radical shifts in the attention that he once gave you; physically, emotionally, or both.

Six Signs He Is Falling Out Of Love With You. - -Man and woman having coffee with no passion
Does time spent together feel like it's more business than pleasure?

He has lost all interest

If your man is falling out of love with you, he will stop caring what you look like.

He will not notice or even care if you changed something. Like giving your hair a new color, buy a new dress or amp your work out plan. Besides, he might stop doing nice things for you or even paying you compliments.

He stops asking questions

When you love someone, you are always interested in their wellbeing. When your guy stops asking what you are doing, whether a headache is gone, how your ailing mum is fairing………it is a sign he is falling out of love.

He stops responding to your bid for connection

Remember how you used to connect with your man throughout the day through sexting, silly jokes, a little touch, and a particular look? These attempts to connect will disappear.

Gottman’s Research found that couples that were in love responded positively to each other’s ‘bids for connection’ 86% of the time. If your guy is regularly deflecting or ignoring your efforts to connect with him, this is most likely a sign that he is falling out of love with you.

5. He doesn’t discuss the future anymore

When your guy suddenly avoids discussing any future related plans with you, it is a sign that he does not see you in his future.

If he cannot sit through a conversation about his intentions and goals, it could mean that he does not envision the same kind of future that you do. Is he planning a trip for the summer and there is no hint that he wants you to come along? There is definitely a problem.

6. Your sex life has changed

The intimacy that you once experienced in your relationship has gone out of the window. You no longer hold hands, kiss or even hug. You struggle to remember the last time you had good ‘connected' sex. He is either very ‘tired’ at the end of the day or falls asleep faster than a baby.

Sex is a barometer for your emotional intimacy. If your guy is not interested in having sex with you, then he is probably not interested in you anymore.

It is only sex

On the flip side, your man could only be showing interest in sex and nothing more.

When you are having sex with him, you do not feel that he is physically attracted to you or even emotionally attached to you. It feels as if sex is just an act and it is more about satisfying himself. Fact is, he has fallen out of love with you but he is still having sex with you to satisfy his urge. Sickening, but true.

The Choice You Need To Make

If you are reading this article, then I assume that you want to make your relationship work. So you need to determine…

  • Is this about you & your relationship?
  • Or has he gone distant about something else, which is simply effecting your relationship?

If it's the latter, then you can typically wait it out.

Every intimate relationship goes through slumps and his detachment might not necessarily indicate that your relationship is unraveling.

If this is the case, you will want to subtly let him know that you are there if he needs you. Eventually, he will come back to you so it's important that you do not pressure him.

Pressuring him can push him further away. In his mind, he needs the distance to deal with the issue. When he works it out for himself he will be finished.

What to do if you think it's about you & your relationship

If all signs indicate that your man is falling out of love, it's time to try and have an honest conversation. Indulging in an uncomfortable conversation with him is way better than carrying on an unfulfilling relationship.

You may even find that your man’s indifference is due to a situation that can be remedied. With openness and enough motivation, you could get his feelings back in line and save your relationship.

Unfortunately, when you do try to bring it up he's probably not going to want to talk about it. Men in these situations seem to feel like ‘she should just know if she knows me.'

So if you are genuinely not sure what is behind his behavior how do you find out?

There is a short video you watch that reveals the inner working of the male mind. Including the #1 most important thing in his life (his obsession), and what he needs from you in a relationship.

I highly recommend the video.

Is it the end?

If, however, you find that he is falling out of love and there is absolutely no value in the relationship, it is time for you to move on. And you know what, do it with your head held high.

The fact that he has fallen out of love with you does not mean that you are not a great catch or a spectacular person. Move on and find someone worth your time.

Every minute you waste trying to make him fall back in love again is the time you could be spending on things. Like making yourself happy or getting out there meeting a good man who will love and treasure you.

Conclusion

Thanks for reading this guide on the signs he is falling out of love with you. Best of luck in your situation. You can contact me here.

My Why Men Pull Away Review – What I Think After Purchasing the Program

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Note: This article is my opinion after purchasing and going through the program. To write it I have read and listened to the program, as well as used my knowledge of other programs.

Note: This article contains sponsored links at no cost to you

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WHY DO MEN STAY with women?

The general belief around men and relationships is that they don’t want commitment. All they really want is sex, and regular sex is how women can keep men in a relationship.

But is this really true?

Well the good news is that this question (and many others) is covered in detail in the ‘Why Men Pull Away’ program by Slade Shaw.

What is the Why Men Pull Away Program… in One Sentence?

The Why Men Pull Away program is a comprehensive guide to what is happening inside a man’s brain when it comes to commitment as well as the tools you need to communicate with him on a deeper level, to get the best out of him, make him happy, as well as move your relationship forward.

What’s the Why Men Pull Away (WMPA) program about… in a bit more detail?

Why Men Pull Away is mostly about commitment, and understanding what a man needs to commit. Along with what he doesn’t want, and some of the trials and tribulations that happen along the way in a typical relationship scenario.

It’s important to remember that men have been this way (pulling away from women in relationships) for tens of thousands of years. This is important for two reasons. One it’s natural. Two, trying to change men in one short lifetime isn’t going to work. So you need to work with it.

That element (the tens of thousands of years of male evolution) is what the book is based on. ‘The paleolithic principle’.

The dream girl factor is about putting yourself in his shoes and asking, ‘what does he want from me?’. This isn’t groundbreaking, but with the help of the author, you can start empathizing and understanding where he is coming from and why. And how, in your particular situation, to meet his needs.

The program covers in some detail, the stages of commitment and a relationship, as well as how to keep the relationship moving forward. There is also a section on the stages of him pulling away and coming back.

There is also an entire section on why he might pull away for the wrong reasons, and what you can do about it.

What can you expect, after going through the program

After going through this program, you can reasonably expect to be able to diagnose where your current (or past) relationships went wrong and how you can go about creating better relationships in the future.

You can also expect to be able to make better decisions regarding him in-the-moment, and understand the language he needs to hear from you.

If you have ever felt like your relationship was ‘stuck’, like many women do, then WMPA will tell you what’s happening in his brain that is stopping progress. You will also learn what you need to do to keep the relationship moving forward.

Who is this program for?

It’s for women who want or have a relationship with a man, and you are not sure how to handle when he starts to pull away.

There are bits and pieces for every stage of your relationship journey, single, dating to married with kids. But it’s mostly for dating and relationships.

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Although the program is pictured on the website as books and CD's, it is only available as a digital download. To get a physical version, you would have to print and bind the text sections yourself.

What’s in the program?

  • Why men pull away – ebook and audio recording
  • Communication Secrets for a Long, Strong Relationship – audio recording and transcription .pdf
  • How to Reignite & Maintain Long-Term Attraction – audio recording and transcription .pdf
  • Interview with Scot McKay – Audio interview
  • Interview with James Bauer – Audio interview

My ‘Why Men Pull Away' Review | Part-by-Part

Introduction – Why You’re Here

This section is mostly build up of what you will learn in the rest of the program. It also talks about how you should read and listen to the program. No real content.

The Paleolithic Principle And The Dream Girl Factor

Without giving away the detail this section covers what the title says. It isn’t all information in though, there is also ‘the question system’ that is directed towards getting him to open up to you while avoiding putting him in a mood. The section rounds out with an explanation of what is covered.

What you’ll learn:

  • What the most attractive quality men find in women is (it’s not what you think)
  • What men really want from a relationship… It’s not what you think
  • The question formula you should use to get him to get him to open up to you when he is pulling away
  • How to make sure your timing with men is right, every time.

Part One – Making Your Man User-Friendly: Understanding The Male Mind Before You Do Anything Else

This section is the largest section of the program and is mostly about commitment. What it is for you and how he sees commitment. Including what makes a man propose to a woman… the fundamental reason.

Part one lays some of the groundwork down for what you need to do. It starts with a wide and broad section on what not to do with men.

Then it moves onto understanding how to know what you actually want and finding out the simple things that he wants out of his relationships.

This includes stuff like, how to let him know you're interested. How to get him to open up to you and tell you things that he hasn’t told anyone. And how to get him to want him to commit to you.

Why YOU being happy is the most important thing in your marriage/relationship or finding a relationship

What you’ll learn:

  • What does commitment mean to him and when it happens in his mind?
  • What to do If Your Man is pulling away right now and you need help?
  • Find Out What He Really Thinks: How To Talk To Him About Commitment, Closeness, And Your Future Together
  • How to know if Your Hopes For The Relationship Unreasonable or You’re On The Right Track
  • Navigating the 5 stages of commitment: how to get from “hello” to “we’re soulmates” in 5 easy steps
  • How to motivate a man to be an active participant in a relationship, rather than couch sitting, tv watching zombie
  • The questions to ask that will prompt him to share and open up emotionally in your relationship (this is a must-read if you want a long-term relationship!)
  • 3 questions you can ask to get him to prove himself to you and why they work so well…
  • The 3 essential and universal needs of men and what happens when you don’t meet them

Part Two – How To Get Him To Focus On You By Giving Him What He Doesn’t Even Realize He Needs

Part two is about what makes a man fall in love. Most of it covers what most women miss and actually do to sabotage themselves.

This is good news because it means that if you have experienced or are experiencing the man in your life pull away, there is something you can do about it. It is not a lottery.

The first section talks about letting him know that it’s ok for him to fall in love with you. As a man, I can tell you that women can make it hard. As it says in the program, women have a much bigger center in their brains for communication than men do. So men can feel like ‘it’s not ok to talk to her about these things’ she will get angry, upset or try to talk me out of doing it.’ It sounds small but it is massive.

Does the man in your life feel like it’s ok to love you? Or does he feel as though it is mandatory? Or maybe he feels it isn’t ok to say or do it. If it’s the second or the third, then you probably feel like your relationship is you pulling him along with you. It shouldn’t feel like that and this is the reason why. The program goes into more details here. I think you’d want to read/listen to this section a few times if this resonates with you.

This section also talks about when a man pulls away… (which is normal). Instead of fighting it, getting emotional and doing things that you don’t usually do, or simply keep prompting him for an answer, the program shows you how to deal with it and come out the other side stronger.

You’ll learn:

  • What makes a man fall in love?
  • What to do if he knows you love him and he is still pulling away?
  • 5 ways to talk to him about your relationship to keep things moving forward
  • One strategy for when he pulls away that will have him springing back to you more committed than before
  • When to have the different ‘commitment conversations’

Part Three – Things That Drive Men Away

Part three will be the meat of the entire program for most women. It covers what drives him away from your relationship, you and commitment in general.

It might also be a little confrontational. Slade pretty straight up with the advice here.

The good news is that the reasons behind everything are explained. I guess it’s no great surprise that nagging is mentioned here as a thing that drives men away. Men detest it. Well the reason why it doesn’t work for him is in this section. Why men’s brains don’t actually understand nagging and being nagged at, how they actually tune it out (and you thought his hearing needed to be checked) and how to make a slight change to your language to get what you want and ‘train him to listen’

Not all the information in this part here is groundbreaking, but it is solid.

Slade also talks about being a dreamgirl. I think this is a good idea, simply because it puts you in the right state of mind to deal with him. Thinking ‘what does he want?’ first. If you do this, and he puts you first, you can’t go wrong.

There’s also a section on ‘why men cheat’. It’s relatively simple compared to some other authors on a similar topic before. But it’s not all bad. Keeping it simple makes it easy to follow, and understand. Although some of the points you will most likely already know.

You’ll learn:

  • The reasons men are secretly afraid of committing to you (and start pulling away)
  • The one thing that pushes men away, more than anything else
  • Why he becomes so grumpy all of a sudden, and how to get him out of his cave when he does
  • How to get your point across that doesn’t push him away
  • Why men cheat and how to ‘other-woman-proof’ your relationship
  • How to deal with work addicts
  • What men are secretly afraid of (that makes them pull away from their relationship)

Part Four – How To Bring Him Closer

Part four is about keeping the relationship strong into the future. It’s more general in nature with some guidelines to follow. As per the other parts, there are examples, and everything is well explained. There aren’t any magic bullets here (which there aren’t anyway), so it’s a simple, guide to follow to keep your relationship strong into the future.

There isn’t a big bang type conclusion either. Just a few words summarising the program.

You’ll learn:

  • What Makes A Man Start Thinking About Forever?
  • How to get him to start thinking about the future
  • What to do when he acts distant and you’ve tried everything you can think of…

Bonuses

BONUS – How to Reignite & Maintain Long-Term Attraction Bonus Interview – With Amy Waterman and Marie Forleo

This 42-minute audio interview and 20-page transcription (in .pdf) on the topic of reigniting and maintaining long-term attraction.

The information comes thick and fast and some of the topics covered are, why having fun is so important in a relationship and how to do it, how to keep the physical attraction alive, and tips to maintaining long-term attraction.

As you can tell by the title, this interview is primarily for women in a long-term relationship.

BONUS – Communication Secrets for a Long, Strong Relationship – With Amy Waterman and Renee Piane

This is a one-hour audio interview (with accompanying 26 page .pdf transcription) around the topic of communication in a relationship. Renee is best known as the author of ‘love mechanics’ which is a system designed for men to help get them relationship ready.

The interview covers topics like, dealing with emotions, criticism in your relationship, how to accept the person that you are with and what to do when the relationship breaks down. This interview is aimed more for people in a committed relationship. It is also a little dated as the transcription is dated 2008.

BONUS – Interview with James Bauer

This 36-minute interview (.mp3 format) with dating and relationships coach James Bauer gets into some of the finer points of male relationship psychology. In particular, why men pull away, what makes men cheat, why men lose interest, why men lie, and what makes them fall out of love.

James is an expert in this area and this interview contains some great information about what’s happening in his brain during the relationship.

BONUS – Interview with Scot McKay

This 46-minute interview (.mp3 format) with Scot McKay, an expert in the dating and relationships space. Scot deals directly with his clients so his advice is real and to the point.

Scot answers questions put to him by surveyed women, in detail, and with a comprehensive understanding. At the very least, this audio will give you a different perspective on some situations you may be experiencing now, or experienced in the past.

PROS & CONS

PROS

Actionable advice

The program gives plenty of direction, including exactly what you should do at times in the way of text messages, and what to say and do.

Explanations

I think the greatest strength of this program is that it doesn’t simply tell you why you should be doing something, it gives you the reasons why so you can understand why yourself.

And then you can start making the right decisions, and truly understand what he wants.

Many questions answered

Probably the greatest part of the program, I felt, was that it answered so many questions. How do you do this, why does that happen, what should you do when he does this etc.

There is something here for every situation you may find yourself in when your man pulls away (and also general relationship stuff)

CONS

Not really any exercises

The reason why I write this as a con is that they can help you get some momentum. There’s one by my count.

Main points could be a little clearer

As I was going through the program, I felt like the information was coming thick and fast and not necessarily sticking. The main points weren’t as clear as they could have been. I needed to listen to the program and refer to the .pdf a few times for me to understand what is what.

Bonuses

Some of the bonuses I felt weren’t as strong as they could be. Some of the advice was very general, broad and cliche. There wasn’t much new information in my opinion as there perhaps could have been. The interview with James Bauer was good (although it felt a little like an advertorial), but the others I felt like a lot of it was simply an opinion on someone else's situation and could have been more helpful.

In Summary (My Opinion)

There is some solid information in this program. It’s put together in a language that is easy to understand and it’s mostly simple to follow.

There is plenty of theory, explanation and enough examples to help anyone with their relationship. You don’t need to have any background knowledge (in relationships, psychology, etc.) to get the maximum benefit out of this program.

Some of the parts covered are common sense, and some of them you may have learned at high school. Although you may have heard them before, they may help reassure you if you’ve heard different opinions on the same topic.

I don’t think there is any doubt that this program can really help, simply by going through it a couple of times. The reason why is there is a lot of things women do that sabotage their own efforts. This program highlights them, and lets you see what you can change.

Usually, it’s just the wording of how you talk to him or the actions that you take in a particular situation. No life changing, no need to rethink everything, just a few small things.

You can get your copy of Why Men Pull Away here.

If you have a question you'd like to ask me about the WMPA program, you can ask me here.

Thanks for reading my why men pull away review

The Ex Factor Guide Review – 3 PROS and CONS of the Program

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IF YOU HAVE SEEN THE VIDEO on ExFactorGuide.com, you are right to be a little skeptical.

It is a tall order to write a book that will bring your boyfriend back and make all the claims that Brad Browning (the author) does.

After getting access to the program, I have gone through it a few times and picked it apart so you can see if it’s worth your time or not.

This review is my take on the program after going through the material.

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What is The Ex Factor Guide (EFG) in one sentence:

The Ex Factor Guide is a simple to follow guide to help get your ex back.

EFG in more detail:

Being involved in a recent break up is emotionally draining. The rollercoaster of emotions as well as the getting used to a new normal is overwhelming

It can feel hopeless and be a lonely place to be. And all these emotions can make you do things that you don’t usually do

Especially if your breakup was a surprise and you didn’t want to break up in the first place

But if he broke it off with you, it isn’t necessarily the end of the relationship

If you still love him. You still want him. You think about him often. Then if there is any chance of getting back together then you’d need to get it together

To help, what if you could have a steady, calm and experienced voice in your ear, giving you guidance in repairing things between you and your boyfriend?

Enter Brad Browning and his Ex Factor Guide

 

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Although the product is shown in boxes, it is only available as a digital download

 

Brads 156-page guide (along with bonuses) aims to give you a structured plan to follow for rekindling and reigniting the flame of your relationship

The guide has 14 chapters that detail his plan for you to get back together with your boyfriend

Chapters

  • Prologue: The Big Picture
  • Chapter 1: Introduction
  • Chapter 2: Attractive Characteristics
  • Chapter 3: Unattractive Characteristics
  • Chapter 4: Panic and Acceptance
  • Chapter 5: Start With “No Contact”
  • Chapter 6: Start Dating Other Men
  • Chapter 7: What If He Contacts
  • Chapter 8: What If He Doesn’t Contact
  • Chapter 9: The “Date”
  • Chapter 10: Seduce Him All Over Again
  • Chapter 11: Sex!
  • Chapter 12: Preventing
  • Chapter 13: Desperation
  • Chapter 14: Conclusion

In the chapters, Brad goes through the different steps of the process. When to start communicating, what to say, where to meet, how far to take it etc.

EFG has advice for those complicated situations such as:

  • He’s sending you mixed messages that you can’t read
  • You think you might have pushed him away but are not sure how
  • He’s been distant for a while and doesn’t seem like himself
  • You get the feeling he is seeing someone else
  • He seems unsure if he wants you in his future or not
  • And others listed on his website

What’s exactly in it:

Brad Browning's comprehensive guide does have:

  • Text – yes
  • Audio – yes
  • Video – no
  • Bonuses – (Text versions of)
    • Why men pull away
    • Flawless fat loss fitness guide
    • How to read a man

Other things you should know

  • The program is a digital download meaning that there are no physical versions available. The good news here is that you will be able to download the program within 5 minutes of purchasing it.
  • Brad offers ‘email coaching’ where he will answer questions, for a fee.
  • After the purchase page, you will receive an email with your login details and a link to the membership area. Once there you can download the text files and audio files (audio files via .zip) to your PC or device.

PROS and CONS

PROS

Practical guide

There is some theory in here explaining this or that, but generally, this is a guide to get things done. Actions, strategies and sometimes even exactly what to say word-for-word

Simple to follow

There aren’t any huge surprises here and no guessing as what to do next etc. The program is in order, and any terminology used by Brad is explained. There is also an option for email coaching so if you do have problems, you have the choice to email Brad himself.

Simple to understand

The book is written in conversational English which made it easy to read. I also liked the fact that I could listen to the program in my car or while out and about. The quality of the audio recording is very good

CONS

A bit manipulative

The EFG has its moments where it is a bit manipulative and you may have moral issues with implementing all of his tactics and strategies. There’s a part in there where he talks about making a fake Facebook profile to get your ex to be jealous enough to get back with you… Needless to say that I don’t think this is a good idea under any circumstances

Over-explained

Don’t get me wrong there is good information in this program, however, it can seem that at times the author is explaining things that don’t need explaining

“Look feminine and pretty. Just look ‘chill’ and take a few deep breaths. Don’t just constantly stare at him  . . ..” – Page 112

I can understand that people might want clarification, but too much can also make people stilted and not-themselves

No references

Studies are referred to here but I could not find a reference

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Bonuses

Why Men Pull Away

Overview:

Is your boyfriend pulling away for no apparent reason? This 30-page guide highlights the 7 reasons why men start becoming distant, and possibly why your relationship broke down. There is also some broad insights into fixing these 7 issues

My opinion:

Some highlights in this bonus. The reasons why men pull away can highlight areas in your relationship where it went wrong if you were unsure. I can picture some people reading this and nodding. However, the advice on how to fix the issues is quite broad. I.e. ‘build more trust and open lines of communication’. ‘Don’t be controlling or jealous’… You probably have heard a lot of this advice before

I think there are some holes in this bonus guide as well. Meaning there are some reasons why your relationship didn’t work that aren’t in here

Flawless Fat Loss Fitness Guide

Overview:

This is a comprehensive 249-page guide to losing weight. It’s a wake-up call and a defined and detailed plan of action which will help anyone who is unsure about the topics of weight loss and health more generally. There are comprehensive sections on both diet and exercise

My opinion:

This is A LOT of detail. Those who like numbers, stats and things to remember are going to enjoy it. For the rest of us, the author does give quite a few rules of thumb, and there are quite a few things to follow and targets to hit in this plan. It also isn’t ‘done for you’ you will need to research and figure the finer details out for yourself. The author is also a little ‘over-confident’ at times which was off-putting. Overall it is a bit hard to follow and is more suited for people who want to start bodybuilding, rather than simply lose a little bit of weight

How to Read a Man

Overall:

This 24-page bonus guide is all about what is happening between his ears. It contains 15 deciphered-for-you scenarios to help you really understand what he is thinking and feeling when he does particular things. All 15 scenarios relate to getting your ex back

My opinion:

There is some good information here, although it mostly reads as common sense. This guide will help give you a second opinion on your relationship with your ex and can help make it a bit clearer on your particular situation. Short and to the point it’s a handy guide to have. Not to sit and read through but more to refer to when required

Summary

There are a few highlights in this program, but generally, it is a simple guide. There isn’t so much new information here as much as laying out a plan and simplifying a game plan, with the help of some common sense

On a more positive side, is that this is a practical guide. You can listen to this once and get a good idea exactly what the plan is. Am I confident in the plan though? It seems solid in some areas and a bit haphazard in others, as well as loosely referring to ‘studies’ that aren’t referenced

Some of the techniques are quite good and as I said, there are a few highlights. But generally, this isn’t as informed as other info products

Overall, I give the Ex Factor Guide  3 out of 5 stars

If you only plan on purchasing one program to help you get your ex back then id try a different one. If however, you want your best shot at getting your ex back, and you want every piece of information on the topic then there are some nuggets you want in this program

The good news is that you can get the program, have a look at it yourself and decide if it’s what you want, or get yourself a refund.

You can get the program here

5 Questions To Ask Your Future Husband…

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Questions To Ask Your Future Husband - Woman on a Date with Man

WOULDN'T IT BE GREAT IF the men you dated came with stickers?

Stickers that say, ‘I am not trustworthy’, ‘I am never getting married’, ‘I will end up cheating on you!’, or something like ‘I am a man of integrity, and I will be a great husband and dad’.

Well, the stickers may not exist in the real sense of the word; but the messages do. Lauren Frances indicates that men give clues that can help you know their personality, interpret their agenda and spot any red flags. Better still, you can obtain all the information that you need from your potential partner simply by asking him questions.

Men have their own relationship goals, and they would be happy to share them with a woman. Many women do not know where a relationship is going because they never ask, and only muster the courage to ask three or four years later.

In ‘Act like a Lady, Think like a Man’, Steve Harvey interviews a lot of men who were self-proclaimed ‘players’. All the ‘players’ indicated that if the women had quizzed them upfront about their intentions, they would have told them right away that they were not looking for anything serious. The guys indicated that the women they dated didn’t ask the essential questions for fear of running the guys off, so they (the guys) just strung the women along.

Why you should ask questions

Just because you love each other does not mean you will automatically create a great life together. Many times, great relationships end despite people loving each other deeply; one is too ambitious while the other is not ambitious enough, one wants children, but the other one does not, one is self-driven while the other one is a slob. So you see, you better ask the questions early enough before you invest so much time, effort and emotions.

Lose the fear

The first step is to get over the fear of losing a man by asking him important questions. In every area of life, taking chances to get what you want is much more productive than sitting around being too scared. Just stop being afraid already. If being clear about your requirements means you risk him walking away, then it is a risk you are going to have to take. In any case, you will only scare the wrong guys off.

What to do

To get the most out of your relationships, you must change your strategy. Start by ensuring that the man is really clear from the word go about what he wants out of his life and his relationship with you.

Q1: What are your plans for the future?

This is truly an important question; you need to know whether you and him share goals and dreams. From his answer, you will able to determine whether:

  • You fit in his plan
  • What role you can play in the plan.
  • You need to remove yourself from the equation.

The man you want to involve yourself with is the one who has a solid plan; one that you can see yourself in. If he has no vision, you do not want to be part of that confusion and mayhem. He is not going anywhere and sooner or later, you will be stuck too.

Q2: How do you feel about me?

This is a question that you will ask after a few dates. If he cannot tell how he feels about you after a month of dating, then he does not feel anything for you; he just wants something. At this point, you are not looking for him to confess his undying love for you; it is too soon anyway.

However, you can expect answers like: I love talking to you, I always wonder what you are doing, and I feel a little better whenever you come around. In other words, his answer should make you feel fantastic. He may not be in love with you just yet, but he will let you know that he is crazy about you and he wants to pursue a long-term relationship with you.

If you realize that his feelings for you are barely scratch the surface, and he is nowhere near where you want him to be, step on the brakes until you hear the things that you need to hear from him.

Q3: Do you believe in marriage?

This sounds like a scary question to ask, but look at this way; you are not telling him that you want to get married to him now, you are only asking him what he believes.

This question will help you to establish whether the guy wants to get married in the first place. That he is in a relationship with you does not necessarily mean that he wants to get married. Also, the fact that he has been dating you for a while is no guarantee that he wants to marry YOU.

Q4: How do you feel about having children?

Over the last few decades, things have changed, and more people feel less need to have children. If you want children, it is best to find out if your man wants children as well before you commit to him. Do not make any assumptions.

If you realize that both of you want children, great! Find out more about what he thinks of children:

  • How many children does he want?
  • How does he feel about having all boys? Or all girls?
  • What would he do if you discovered that as a couple you could not have children?
  • Is he open to alternative ways of having children; like adoption?

Q5: What are your thoughts about religion?

Religion is a big issue, and it is ironic that many couples do not discuss it before committing. If religion is especially important to you, it is prudent to ask all the relevant questions.

  • Does he practice any religion?
  • If the two of you practice different religions, who will be willing to switch to the other’s?
  • What religion will your children practice?

Quick tip: Ask your guy about his relationship with God. If you realize that the man has no relationship with God, has no belief system or guiding force in his life, this might be a huge problem.

  • What moral barometer does he answer to?
  • What makes him feel whole?
  • What is going to make him do right by you?

By all means, you can date a guy who does not go to church or have a relationship with God, but if his core beliefs do not match with yours, you are likely to have challenges in your relationship.

Final thoughts

  • Men love to talk about themselves; they do this because they know that to get you, they have to impress you. Allow him to impress. The more inquisitive and interested you are, the more the information he will give you.
  • Believe what you hear. Do not stick around hoping that the guy will change his mind about something down the road. For instance, if he does not want kids, he will probably not change his mind, regardless of how deeply he feels about you.
  • Do not be afraid of the answers you might get. See the answers as a way to plan your future. Be proud that you are proactively creating a future that you will love.
  • Do your best to be equally honest about your expectations from the start. Be absolutely clear that your man understands that you are looking for long-term relationship, marriage, children…. whatever it is, define it for him so that you are on the same page.

Lastly:

The reason why you are asking all these questions is because you like a guy and you want to find out if the two of you have a future together. You do not intend to make him feel uncomfortable.

So, do not ask all the questions in one sitting and do not ask them in a formal way. You are not interrogating the guy. Be tactful; make the conversation as casual and as fun as you can.

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