11 Tell Tale Signs a Shy Guy Likes You & How to Respond

signs a shy guy likes you - a guy who does not know what to do

signs a shy guy likes you - a guy who does not know what to do

SHY GUYS HAVE MANY GREAT QUALITIES…

While many women say that they want a confident man, no woman wants a loud, brash and arrogant man. They want a guy who can give them undivided attention and one with whom they can have an intelligent conversation.

Women also want a man who can be emotionally available to them. Shy guys fit the bill because they are in tune with their emotions.

Shy guys make the most loyal partners because they do not have many interests. When they love someone they give her their all.

It would be a pity to miss out on a shy guy due to the difficulty of figuring him out because he will most likely treat you like the noble princess. Read on for signs that the shy guy likes you.

11 Signs a Shy Guy Likes You

Signs a shy guy likes you - stealing glances at any opportunity

1. He creates opportunities to be around you.

If a guy likes you, you will notice that he seems to be ‘around’ you a lot. A shy guy usually stays within his group of friends, so when he breaks out of his comfort zone and approaches you, the chances are that he likes you. It takes a lot of bravery for him to even come near you.

He will show up conveniently where you like spending your time. If you mention that you love skiing on Saturdays, he will suddenly start showing up on the slopes. He likes you, and he wishes you would make the first move.

2. The body language: Actions speak louder than words.

Shy guys tend to overdo when concealing their high interest level. They make every effort to appear uninterested in a woman since engaging a woman is terrifying. However, you will pick up on some subtle signs because body language does not lie.

3. He is nervous around you.

A good sign that a shy guy likes you is if he gets nervous around you. This is because when you like someone, your coordination and generally cool demeanor can temporarily abandon you. This is much more the case for the shy guy. Your presence will literally paralyze him if he likes you. Does he drop his phone, his keys, spill on himself, and lose his cool around you – Take note.

Does he touch up his hair, scratch his face, twirl his fingers or get fidgety whenever you come close to him? This is a definite sign that he likes you, but he is very self-conscious in your presence. So, he ends up being a bag of jitters around you.

4. Secret glances

Shy guys do not want to be caught looking at you because confrontation is not their forte. But, he cannot help admiring you from afar. You will find him staring at you from across the room, but he looks away the instant you look at him.

Experts say that it is not the level of his stare that indicates his attraction for you, but the frequency. So, if you catch him staring at you more than a few times, it is a dead giveaway that he is attracted to you.

Also, you might notice he will try to make eye contact with you immediately before he steps out of room, even when he is with his friends.

5. A light touch

People touch the people they like. While a shy guy will not muster the courage to touch you, he will engage in the form of touching called preening: Picking lint off your hair, straightening your jacket. Touching is a good indicator that he likes you.

6. He stutters when he is talking to you.

A shy guy wants to say all the right things. He will, therefore, have difficulties getting the words out if he really likes you. Or he will blank out in the middle of a sentence, and he is left tripping over words and making little sense.

7. He will copy your movements

Experts call it mirroring. Watch his gestures closely: even from across the room, he will unconsciously copy your actions. If you pick up your drink to have a sip, he will do the same; if you shift in your seat; he will too. Mirroring sends unconscious signs from a guy to a woman that he likes her.

8. Your presence silences him

When a shy guy is around you, he suddenly clams up. He will be talking animatedly to his friends, but the moment he sees you, he will suddenly go quiet. What a coincidence that his story gets finished every time you walk in?

The reason is that the guy either loses his train of thought or does not want you to hear what he thinks is a lame story and think he is lame too. He merely wants to impress you, so his brain gets ahead of him, and he forgets to talk.

9. He is extra friendly to you

A shy guy may not be big on romantic gestures, but he will do random little things for you. Does he offer things like gum, water or a donut? Does he save you a seat, offer to help you with your work or offer to drop your home? This is a massive step for a shy guy, and you should definitely take it as a sign that he likes you.

This is a vulnerable move for him considering that he is introverted, but he just cannot help it. Observe how he reacts to you when you need help. If he jumps in quickly to assist you, he is deeply attracted to you.

10. He talks to you online

A face to face conversation is daunting, especially when romantic feelings are involved. For this reason, a shy guy will find it a relief to communicate with you online or via the phone.

Behind the screen he will have full confidence since there is much less pressure to respond perfectly and on the spot.

The good news is that he is working up the confidence to talk to you and soon he will comfortably have a proper conversation with you.

11. He gets jealous when you talk to other guys.

If you want to know whether a shy guy likes you, pay attention to how he reacts when you talk to other guys. Seeing other guys talking to you ticks him off. He is terrified that you might fall for one of the guys before he has an opportunity to tell you how he feels. So, how does he react? He will either stare at the guys in envy, or he will be completely bummed out that he will leave the scene.

Introverted people suffer in silence when they are jealous. The fact that he displays his jealousy is a clear indication that he is attracted to you.

How to Respond to a Shy Guys Interest

When you find out that the shy guy is attracted to you, it is time to let him know that you are allowing him to get close to you. Let him know that it is safe for him to be in your company and to talk to you.

Engage him in a conversation whenever an opportunity arises and gently coax him out of his shell. You will be shocked to realize that he probably likes to talk but experience has taught him that people are not interested in what he has to say: he, therefore, prefers to be quiet.

Also, it is crucial that you make him feel that you are talking and spending time as friends. When he feels that there are no expectations, there will be no pressure, and he will, therefore, feel safe and open up.

Finally,

Allow him to be the man: when he suggests going to a particular place, let him have his way. Chances are, this is where he is comfortable.

Do not sway him to go where many people are if he doesn’t want to. Forcing him to go to a club, for instance, is being inconsiderate of his feelings.

Be patient with your shy guy. At the end of the day, you will discover your diamond in the rough who is willing to listen and put your needs ahead of his own.

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The 7 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

NOT EVERY MAN OUT THERE IS an alpha male.

Not every guy who has a crush on you has it in him to force himself out of his comfort zone and make the move he is dying to make.

Some guys are introverted, shy and self-conscious. And they find it difficult to muster even the courage to say hello especially if they are intimidated by you.

You are likely to be intimidating to a guy if:

  • You have a successful career: Some guys may think dating a successful career woman is hot, but others will feel as if it is a blow to their ego, dating a CEO while they are probably in the mid-management in their industry.
  • He thinks you look like a model: A guy with the slightest ounce of insecurity in his bones will be intimidated by a gorgeous woman. He may think that your ‘out of his league’ or that you should be dating an equally handsome and extremely rich guy… which he is not.
  • You come from a wealthy family: If you come from a prominent family or have more money than a guy, he may feel intimidated. There is the fear that he may not live up to the kind of lifestyle you are accustomed to, or he is looked down upon by you or your family.
  • You are highly intelligent: You always got straight A’s in school and graduated top of the class. Along with being accepted into every university you applied to; you graduated with distinction. While intelligence has served you well in academia and your profession, some guys fear that they cannot measure up to you, and you will eventually lose interest anyway.
  • You ooze confidence: Do you exude are an aura of confidence wherever you go? Do you get into a crowded room and every head turns in your direction? Do you instantly draw people’s attention with the way you conduct yourself? Some guys will find you difficult to approach.

Unfortunately, it is not easy to figure out the shy guy. It is frustrating to determine whether he is intimidated by you or simply disinterested. Here are a few signs that he likes you but is too scared to say anything.

1. Body language

A guy who has a crush will steal glances at you a lot. The shy one, however, will sneak glances at you when you are not looking; but if you catch him looking at you, he will break eye contact.

Also, he will be anxious and fidgety around you. This guy wants to do everything perfectly. He is trying to be the best version of himself in front of you. Do not be surprised if he breaks into a sweat when he is in your presence.

Watch how he behaves around his friends. Is he the same way with them or is he confident and comfortable around them? If he is only shy in your presence, he is definitely interested.

What to do

Try to make him feel at ease by smiling at his jokes and asking questions about him. Show him respect, and he will slowly build the confidence that he needs to pursue you. Keep it simple with him for now, he may not understand your version of flirting.

2. He seems to be ‘around’ a lot.

If you work together, your crush will hang out by your locker a lot, or maybe go to your favorite coffee place all the time. He will go out of his way to do nice things for you: like grab you a coffee or a snack, share his lunch with you, save you a seat.

He will do everything to catch your attention, but that is it. Indeed, while he may be talkative with others, he will be quiet when he is around you.

These are all good signs. A guy will only hang around a woman he likes. It shows he feels good being around you and therefore he wants to be around you more. He is definitely into you but is probably too scared to tell you.

What to do

You will have to help him break out of his shell. Try to extend the conversation every time. Give him some sign to show him that you like spending time with him; and that you are also interested in him.

3. He loves to highlight his accomplishments

A guy who is intimidated by you will try to unconsciously convince you and him that he is worthy of you. So, he will somehow manage to mention his GPA, his position on the Lacrosse team and the fantastic presentation he made at the managerial meeting yesterday.

He will try to grab your attention with the story of how he rescued a small boy at the pool and how good he is at playing the electric guitar. You might mistake this for bragging, but he is only trying to impress you. He is intimidated by your resume, so he is decorating his.

What to do

Even though this can be exasperating, see the upside. This is his way of trying to impress you. Indulge him a little while and then change the subject to more important things.

4. He might avoid talking about himself

Opposite of bragging, he may avoid talking about his life: income, career, and spending habits. Since this guy is unnerved by you, he will not take the chance of exposing his weakness by talking to you about himself. He would rather talk about your achievements.

This is actually a good strategy. The more he talks about you, the more he learns about you and in the process he might find some common things and interests that you two share.

What to do

Try to extend your conversations with him. Accept his compliments and show him that you enjoy talking to him. This will give him more confidence to share the less glorious aspects of his life.

5. He is there when you need him

If you have a difficult situation and he gets to know of it, he will do even the impossible to solve it. This is his moment to shine, and his actions will say everything that his words have failed to say. He wants to show you he has many admirable attributes: he is supportive, sensitive and trustworthy. He will go the extra mile to make it up for what he lacks financially and professionally.

What to do

If you genuinely like the guy, reciprocate his kind gestures by being there for him during his own challenging situations. Also, let him know how grateful you are for his help.

A guy likes a woman who appeals to his inner hero. When he does all these things for you, it makes him feel manly. Do not ruin his fun by telling him how you are perfectly capable of doing whatever he wants to do for you. Let him feel that he is a man: let him carry the heavy items for you and tell him that you appreciate it. Something like ‘Thanks, I could use muscles like yours more often’ will get the point across.

Let him defend and protect you (even if you really do not need it).

Signs a Guy Likes You But is Intimidated - Man not sure how to act when with beautiful woman

6. He is awkward around you

He may be intimidated by the process of meeting someone he likes, so when/if he gets the courage to talk to you it can be awkward. Odd and bland conversation topics, him being awkward with his gestures.

What to do

Wait it out. He will get there eventually. If you want to see more of his normal side, then ask him about something he cares a lot about. It could be his job/hobby or something he follows (like sports or something science related).

7. He is insecure and jealous

Since he is unable to confess his feelings for you, he is also worried that another guy will attract your attention. Any man who seems to enjoy your presence triggers his hot button: your neighbor, colleagues, and other male friends.

Understand that he is worried that he is not good enough for you and that another man will successfully pursue you and hijack his chance of being with you. This may actually be the only time a guy who is feeling intimidated will act as though he really likes you.

What to do

Do not hold back from socializing with other people just because you fear his reaction. This will form the basis for controlling you, and you will eventually resent him for it. After all, he has not even admitted his feelings for you. He knows what he needs to do, let him do it.

Ultimately

Experts say that men are not concerned about your accomplishments. The one thing that the man cares about is how you make him feel. The man wants the feminine, kind, nurturing woman lurking inside that investment banker, fitness instructor, or top-notch attorney.

So, you know what to do:

  • Get in touch with your softer side and allow your feminine energy to shine.
  • Do not send a guy an email after a date; let him pursue you
  • Tell him your preference, then let him lead: hail the cab, choose the table, open doors you get the drift.
  • Do not talk about work on your date.
  • Dress up: wear light makeup, soft colors, a dress and heels on your dates. It makes him feel important to you.

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